I wouldn’t necessarily consider myself a picky person, but I do have certain things that I am a little particular about. For example, eating certain foods freak me out, which means that people love to say I’m a picky eater at big family dinners and holidays. I don’t like eating fish and I don’t think that’s a crime! But, I was always a topic of discussion at the dinner table when I refused to put some on my plate. It was kind of embarrassing to be called “the picky one” out of my entire family.
While it used to bug me, I recently realized that it’s totally okay to be picky about certain things. As long as my pickiness isn’t bothering anyone, it isn’t anyone business but my own. I know being picky feels like you’re being too “high maintenance,” but there is nothing high maintenance about wanting to be happy and comfortable in your day-to-day life. If anyone else calls you too picky, take it as a compliment, because it means that you actually care about how things make you feel. And if you are starting to feel guilty about being picky, take a look at this list of things its totally okay to be particular about.
1. Who you have sex with.
This is important: you don’t want to have sex with ~anyone~ just because they are around. It is totally okay to be picky about this! A lot of girls always think that they should jump at the first opportunity to have sex, but you are allowed to be picky with who you want to share that experience with!
2. What you wear.
What is the deal with girls being made fun of for wanting to take time to pick out their clothes? It’s totally okay to be picky when it comes to what you wear and what kind of clothes you buy because they are going on your body. You want to feel confident when you are going out or even going to school, so, yes, you can spend hours picking out a dress as long as it makes you feel good!
3. What bra and underwear you buy.
Okay, bras are expernsive, but they are worth it since it’s something you wear everyday (unless you don’t which is totally fine!). My mom used to tell me to stop buying such expensive bras but this is something that I allow myself to be picky about. It is your body and you’re the only one wearing it, so you should be able to pick out any bra or underwear you desire! Don’t settle for some cheap one, okay?
4. Your hair.
A lot of girls gain confidence from their hair. It’s a totally fine thing to do this. You should be the only one who has a say in how your hair looks. If you get a hair cut and don’t like it, don’t be afraid to go back and get something else! Sure, people might call you picky, but it’s better to be picky than have an awful hair cut, IMO.
5. What you eat.
PSA: You are allowed to be a picky eater. There are so many reasons for why people do or don’t want to eat certain things, and nobody should ever make you feel bad for eating too much or not eating something in particular. As long as you are healthy, don’t let anyone make you feel bad for your picky food choices.
6. Your phone.
I know adults looooove to criticize kids and their “crazy technology these days,” but being picky about a phone isn’t a bad thing. It’s 2016: phones are an important part of our lives and if you want a certain smart phone instead of an outdatd flip phone your mom wants to get you, it’s okay to tell her (nicely) that you’d rather have something more practical. Phones are a huge part of every person’s life these days, so you can totally be picky about it.
7. Your birthday plans.
It’s your day. You deserve to be picky about what you do. No shame. You might be called a “birthday diva” for wanting everything to go perfectly on your bday but you deserve it!
8. What you spend your money on.
Money can be tricky. But if you’re out shopping with your friends and you don’t buy a shirt because it’s a lot of $$$, that’s totally okay. Saving money is actually really smart and ~adult~. If you earned your money through a job or babysitting, you should have total control over what you spend it on!
Contrary to popular belief, you can be picky about who you will and will not date. You shouldn’t feel pressured to date someone just because they express interest in you. Dating someone can be a super important experience, and you don’t want to share that with just anyone.
10. Choosing a college.
College is an important time in your life. You don’t want to just pick any school, because you will spend four years hating it. You can set high standards for picking out a school. That doesn’t mean that they were necessarily exceed your expectations, but it’s important to know what you want when it comes to a school.
11. Picking friends.
If you pick mean friends, you are going to be miserable. It’s okay to drop your friends if they are unsupported or treat you poorly. It’s not even really being picky, it’s just looking you out for yourself!
Are you picky? Do you think it’s a bad thing? Tell us in the comments!