Being an introvert is hard. Making friends while being an introvert is even harder. It can be terrifying to put yourself out there and feel vulnerable in order to make friends. On the one hand, you could just not even make friends in the first place, but on the other hand, you want to have those #SquadGoals that everyone has been talking about. What’s an introvert to do?
Honestly, friends are so important! You need to be able to have a support system of awesome people who can be there for you in both good and bad times. So even if you are hesitant to go out and meet people, it is something you should really try. Don’t know how? No worries, here are some super simple tips for how to make friends, even if you are an introvert. You’ve got this, gurl!
Hang Out With Your Friend's FriendsThis might feel like a little bit of a cheat, but it's actually a great way to make friends! Tag along with some familiar people in order to get to know their friends and therefore make some new friends of your own! Ask to hang in groups (not too big, or else it can get a little overwhelming!) then get to know some new people. Image Source: iStock
Ask About Their InterestsSometimes it can be hard for introverts to talk about themselves. It can be anxiety-inducing and stressful, so you can combat this by asking someone about themselves, so you don't have to talk much. It will be a lot easier and less stressful to listen to someone talking as opposed to having to talk yourself! Start off with a super simple question, like asking them what their favorite movie is. Image Source: iStock
Don't Stress Too MuchIt can be overwhelming to try and make friends, so try not to overwork yourself with meeting new people. It's okay to hang out for an hour or two and then go home. Socializing is hard! You should only do as much as you can. Remind yourself that it's okay to not want to hang out all the time. You deserve some "you" time. Image Source: iStock
Interact With Friends OnlineTalking to people in person can be super intimidating for an introvert, which is why social media is definitely your go-to for when you are feeling social but not “let’s hang out in person” social. You message someone on Facebook saying hi. It takes two seconds and is a lot easier than calling or seeing them in person! Image Source: iStock
Be Open-MindedTry not to be too judgmental of others, you never know what theya re going through! If you want to make friends, it’s important to be open-minded when meeting them. Listen to what they have to say and try and make conversation. Image Source: iStock
Be PatientFriendships don't have to happen over night! Try not to stress out about this too much. Real relationships take time to form and it can seem frustrating, but it’s important to remember that you can’t find a new best friend in one day. Image Source: iStock
Remember You'll Have To Want To Make FriendsYou can’t force yourself to make friends. It takes a lot of time and effort and if you feel like you are making friends just for the sake of it, it probably won’t work! You should want to branch out and meet people, not force yourself to do so. Image Source: iStock
Are you an introvert? Are you going to try any of these tips? Tell us in the comments!