Let’s be real, masturbating for the first time is weird, a little awkward, and surprisingly difficult. Like, how are you supposed to know what to do or how to do it? It can be super intimidating! If you’ve ever felt scared or nervous about it, know that you are definitely not alone, and it’s totally normal to feel a little uncertain when it comes to masturbation. User queenbae recently came to our boards with a simple question. She wrote,”So I’ve never masturbated before. I don’t exactly know how, but I want too. Any tips?”
Obviously, the experienced girls from our boards came to the rescue to help out queenbae. While there is no right or wrong way to masturbate, there are things you can do to ease yourself into it if you aren’t too comfortable doing it yet. The most important thing for you to do is do what feels good, not what you think you should be doing. Make sense? If you’re still a little wary, take a look at what our girls had to say about masturbating for the first time, and remember, practice makes perfect!
Find A Private Placerayne said, "PRIVACY PRIVACY PRIVACY! Fear of getting caught puts a damper on it." Nothing ruins the ~mood~ like getting walked in on, am I right?! Make sure you are in a private place like your room or the bathroom so you can be sure nobody will walk in. Image Source: iStock
Set The MoodSkettlechan said, "You have to set the mood first. Do something that will turn you on-- this could be reading some eroticas, watching porn, having sex thoughts, touching your nipples, anything. Eventually, you'll feel yourself getting wet." You can't just jump right in, you've got to feel it out first. Do whatever it is that will turn you on- whether that is porn or reading some erotic fan fiction. You do you! Image Source: iStock
Use Clean Handsfantasygirl425 said, "There's really no right or wrong way of doing it but you don't want to hurt yourself while doing it. Make sure your hands are clean and its easier to do it if you have shorter nails. " Try and relax and understand that there is no right or wrong way. Try out different things, and make sure you're using clean hands to do it. Image Source: iStock
Rub With Your Fingers!becca_l said, "Most girls when they're young and begin to feel these new urges tend to touch or 'play,' but eventually discover that they need to "finish" as the feelings will start to linger or come back on and off. Masturbating is release. Best way to deal with the urges is most girls will rub with fingers, or another good way is to grind or hump" Don't think of it as a chore, think of it as a good way to let of some steam and de-stress your body! Use your fingers to rub or find something to hump, like a pillow. Image Source: iStock
Try Humping Stuffstacyl said, "At some point that feeling and tingles will max out and feel really intense which is the point of no return and at that point instinct will quick in, you will more than likely get the urge to grind/hump faster or put more pressure in your thrusting, and that should do it." You can hump something, like a pillow, to help you get to an intense feeling that you might not be able to get by just using your fingers. Image Source: iStock
Use The Shower Headmayyya said, "For me, when I started years ago, it was under shower with shower head. No fingers, water do the magic. I still like this kind of relaxation time to time" You don't have to use your fingers, tbh. Try using the shower head and masturbate in the shower if you're feeling up to that! Image Source: iStock
Change Up Your Pacemandakim said, "When you feel it 'building' keep doing whatever it is you're doing. Don't stop because it'll fade away like you describe. Keep going and trust me, you'll love what happens. You can vary the speed and pressure too....just don't press down too hard on something like a chair or bathtub. You don't need a bruise down there" You can try applying different pressure with your fingers in order to "build up" the feeling. As long as it feels good you are doing it right! Image Source: iStock
Which of these tips are you going to try? Tell us in the comments!