Feeling guilty about something has to be one of the worst emotions out there. Guilt sits in your stomach like a brick, making you feel icky and sad and just plain awful. You push it to the back of your mind, because that’s better than confronting it, but then it comes up at the exact moment you don’t want to think about it, like when you’re trying to fall asleep at the end of a long day or you’re feeling good about something else. It doesn’t matter if you’re male or female, single or in a relationship, always outgoing or more introverted… there always seems to be something that you feel guilty about. It’s a never-ending struggle. The good (or maybe bad) news is that most of you are wasting your time feeling guilty about things you shouldn’t feel bad about – especially single people.
If you’re a single lady, you’re probably feeling guilty for your lack of a relationship and the amount of time you’re spending on yourself. Maybe you feel guilty for turning down a date with someone even though you had absolutely no interest in them. There are things that single people need to get over and feeling guilty about your overall relationship status is one of them. You’re a single gal and you should be out there enjoying life and not stressing out about when you’re going to meet someone just so you can update your Facebook status. That said, let’s talk about the things single people should never feel guilty about:
1. That you’re not in a relationship.
I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again: No one should be getting upset that they’re not in a relationship. You should be making the most of your single life. You don’t need to consider anyone else’s needs or feelings, you can focus on your needs and feelings. Why would you feel guilty about taking some time out for yourself?
2. Not having a date at an event.
There is no rule that you have to always have a plus one to show up somewhere. And don’t go thinking that it will make things awkward for the other attendees. If they feel awkward that you have no one glued to your side, they have the problem, not you. When you’re dateless at a party, you can mingle with who you want, and move on when you’re ready.
3. Putting your needs first.
How often do you think about yourself? It’s always about bae, your BFF, your parents, your siblings, those people at work, those strangers you saw on the bus, that girl on the street, yadda yadda yadda. When you don’t have a SO, that is one less person to think about before you. So, maybe this time you can actually put yourself on the top of the list for a change? Who’s going to be upset about that?
4. Focusing on other things.
Finding the perfect bae isn’t the only goal in life. In fact, it might not even be a goal for some people at all. That is totally cool. You probably have a bunch of other goals on your bucket list, so if you want to devote your attention to them for awhile, do it and do not think twice about it.
5. Being the only single girl in your squad.
Are you the only girl without a SO in your group of friends? Own it. You might think that it is weird and awkward, but it isn’t. It would actually be weird if you and all your friends switched from being single to being in relationships at the same time. If you’re still feeling down about your lack of a SO, think about it this way: Your friends are probably envious of you.
6. Spending money on yourself.
You earned that money, so why wouldn’t you spend it on yourself? There is no financial book in the history of this planet that says you should only be spending money on stuff that pertains to a relationship. Go on and buy those shoes and enjoy the fact that you don’t have to explain to bae why you’re suddenly broke.
7. Taking a break from dating.
TBT, dating can be downright exhausting. (Thanks, Tinder.) Deciding that you’re going to take yourself out of the game for awhile can be a really wise move. It doesn’t mean that you’re a failure, that something is wrong with you, or that you are weird. Stop thinking badly about your decision and make the most of time you’re not busy swiping right or left.
8. Being selfish.
You need to look after yo’self, girl. It doesn’t matter whether those needs involve watching Netflix until 3:00 AM or taking a yoga class. It is all about you and devoting time strictly for yourself is never a bad thing. We never have enough time for ourselves to begin with. Period.
9. Not having a master plan.
Don’t have a plan all figured out about how you can land yourself the bae of your dreams? Don’t worry about it. You’re definitely not alone. You don’t need anything. In fact, you don’t even need to want a plan to land someone. If we’re being honest, most dating plans never work out anyways.
10. Loving the fact that you are single.
Are you single and owning it? Good for you. That is just the right attitude to have. And don’t let anyone try to rain on your parade. Most of those people in relationships seem to forget how amazing being single can be.
What is something that you have felt guilty about? Let us know in the comments!
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