Couples who say they don’t fight are lying. Sure, they might be perfect for each other, but nobody’s perfect, so sooner or later, every couple is going to have a fight. Actually, fighting is necessary in order to have open and honest communication. If you’re not fighting, it either means you’re not being honest with each other or that you don’t feel passionately enough about each other to try. That said, there’s a big difference between healthy fighting and unhealthy fighting. In a healthy relationship, couples fight well – I know that sounds like an oxymoron, but it’s totally possible to be good at arguing with your bae. Fighting well and fighting fair is good for everybody and like everything else, is a learned skill set.
To start, a fight shouldn’t be looked at as a competition for who the better partner is or anything like that. You should be in it to win it, yes, but not for yourself, for the state of your relationship. You’re a couple, after all, and that means you’re allies and not enemies. Not all fights have to be next-level screaming matches or “who can ignore who longer” texting battles. The success of a fight isn’t measured in who wins and loses, it’s in how much it hurts or helps your relationship. And cue cheesy Full House “moral of the story” music! I hate saying it
no I don’t but it’s cheesy because it’s true. If you’re stuck in a toxic fight pattern with your person, here are nine ways to be better at arguing with bae.
How do you and your SO argue? Do you fight fair or is it toxic? Do you have any advice? Let us know in the comments!
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