Sex is widely considered one of the best things in the world. Read any women’s magazine, watch any PG-13 movie or TV show, listen to basically anyone speak, and you’ll hear something along the lines of, “What’s better than sex? Nothing!” or advice that leads to the ultimate end goal: being naked in bed together. It is such a popular activity that it can start to seem like having a low sex drive is impossible – or, if it’s happening, there’s something seriously wrong with you. The world makes it seem like every single person out there is running around wanting to have sex 24 hours a day. In reality, this isn’t true. There are plenty of people out there who have low sex drives, and it’s easy to feel shamed for that.
As I said, the world at large makes it seem like sex should be the ultimate motivation for everything. But what if you don’t want to have sex all the time? What if you like it fine, you just don’t need to do it as often as other people need to? And how do you know if your sex drive is so low that there’s a problem, or if it’s just… not as high as you think it should be? If you don’t want to have sex at all, ever, and nothing about it excites you, that could be asexuality, which is different than just a lower sex drive.
A healthy sex drive looks different for everybody, but yous hould know where you fall there. Being sexually compatible is important in a relationship, and knowing what you want and don’t want out of your sex life is important for your personal well-being. If you’re wondering whether your sex drive is “normal” or a little below that, here are a few signs you have a low sex drive. This doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you – it just means you’re not as into sex as other people are.
Do you have a low sex drive? How does it effect your life? Let us know in the comments!
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