When you start a relationship, everything is shiny and new. You like everything about each other, and you’re both on your best behavior so that you can both be constantly impressed with each other. You get butterflies when you see them, and you want to be with them all day, every day. When you’re not together, you’re texting each other. Your texts are full of hearts, pet names, and plans for hanging out. You can’t imagine a time when it would change… until it does. The first month of your relationship is so different from a few months in, and that trickles all the way down to the little things, including your text messages to each other.
After a few months of being in a relationship, the shine has worn off. You’re still happy together, of course, but you feel less inclined to share every moment of your day with them. You don’t have to tiptoe around each other’s feelings any more. Honesty is great! You don’t have to pretend to like the things they like, or be friends with all of their friends, or tell them every single time you’re thinking about them. Your text messages probably don’t include as many hearts any more – in fact, you probably don’t spend most of your day texting them. That’s completely fine and totally normal. How normal? Here are a few examples of text messages you send in the first month of a relationship versus the sixth month to prove to you that you’re not alone:
Saying Good MorningIn the beginning of your relationship, you want to be the first person they hear from every morning and the last person they talk to every night. After you've been together awhile, you just want to make sure they're on time to pick you up for school.
Making Date Night PlansHaving a significant other means you always have someone to hang out with. At first, that means making plans and going places. Not only is it fun, but you get to show off your love for the world to see! After awhile, "date night" becomes sweatpants and Netflix.
Hanging Out With FriendsCombining your friend group and your boo's can be fun at first—who doesn't want more friends? But once it starts cutting into your alone time, it's time to cut the bros loose. You don't want to seem high maintenance, but you really don't need them to tag along every time.
Randomly Checking InYou're always thinking about each other, so you're constantly texting each other, even if you don't really have anything to say. Just knowing you're on each other's minds is enough. As you get more comfortable, you'll keep checking in about random things...including things you never thought you would have admitted to them in the beginning.
Dealing With AnticipationWhen you first couple up, you want to spend all of your time together. You would never waste a second! Once you're used to your routine, you're slightly less excited about hanging out.
Dealing With Pet PeevesDuring the honeymoon phase of the relationship, every single thing they do is cute, down to their loud chewing and inability to be on time for anything. After a few months, you can't help but tell them to keep their mouth closed or get mad when they show up late. Pet peeves may not be worth breaking up over, but that won't stop them from bothering you.
Making Dinner PlansYou'll roll out the red carpet, light the candles, put on the romantic music...until you just really want them to pay you back for the Big Mac Value Meal you bought them the other day when they left their wallet in their locker. A relationship is all about give and take, right?
Giving ComplimentsYou are dating the best person in school. Best looking, nicest, funniest—and you'll tell them every chance you get. After a few months, they've already gotten all the compliments you can give. Now it's time to get real.
ApologizingYour first fight seems like a huge deal. You're worried they'll stop liking you and you'll do anything to patch it up. Once you realize that you won't break up over every little argument, saying sorry becomes less extravagant.
Saying Good NightYour relationship isn't going to crumble if you don't fall asleep on the phone together, but it might take awhile to realize this.
Are you in a long-term relationship? Do you think these are accurate or no? Let me know in the comments!