Thanks to the emergence of Internet porn, squirting has become known as the sexual holy grail of female pleasure. But beyond grainy videos of porn stars having an orgasm, we don’t really talk about what squirting actually is in terms of sexual education. Before you get caught up in the “how do I squirt?” Google search frenzy, there are some facts about squirting you need to know. For starters, those big gushers that we see in porn are not realistic, and have only served to make the sex act mythicized. Like Bigfoot of the Loch Ness Monster, plenty of people deny it exists, while a handful of men and women swear they’ve seen it in action – or done it themselves. So what’s the truth?
In order to talk about it, we need to remove the stigma. I mean, come on – we’re all a little too comfortable talking about male ejaculation, but when it comes to the possibility of female ejaculation, we feel embarrassed and skeptical. What gives? Aside from the sexism swirling around there, we need to get rid of the idea that squirting is something that only happens thanks to a magical penis or a partner from heaven. It’s not an elite sexual activity. Not doing it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, and squirting isn’t the be all and end all of female sexual pleasure. So, before we let any more sexual taboos or fears get in the way of your good time, these are eight essential facts about squirting you need to know.
Squirting And Female Ejaculate Are Different ThingsWhen anyone talks about squirting, they talk about it as if it is female ejaculation. This isn't accurate. These originate in two different parts of the body and, as fluids, look, feel, and are made up of completely different things. Squirting can certainly be part of female ejaculation, but it doesn't make up all of it. It's possible to have one without the other (or both at the same time, hey now), but they aren't the same things. They're both under similar societal taboos where women are made to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable because of it, but as a whole, they're both due to female sexual pleasure, which, last I checked, was always a good thing.Source: iStock
Female Ejaculate Comes From The Skene's GlandBiology lesson! Your Skene's glands sit on the anterior wall of your vagina on either side of your urethra and are sometimes referred to as the female prostate. It functions like the male prostate in that the fluid it produces is like semen without the sperm in that it contains glucose, fructose, and prostatic acid phosphate. It's also more opaque and feels thicker than what we know as squirting with a consistency more like saliva. Female ejaculate is different than the vaginal ejaculation that happens during arousal (ever feel yourself get wet - that's what that is). If you're having penis-and-vagina sex, it's easy to get these fluids confused or miss it altogether because there's a chance it just got pushed back up your vagina during penetration or mixed in with fluids from the penis, discharge, or a number of other things going on down there.Source: iStock
Squirting Is (Basically) Diluted PeeThe eternal debate about squirting is that some people insist it's pee, others say that's insulting. The truth, according to science, is that squirting can include urine. It comes from your bladder and exits your urethra. It's not peeing, exactly, but it definitely includes urine, which I know might sound weird. But urine is sterile, and squirting is diluted urine (it contains urea and creatine, but in much lower amounts) so it's not going to be yellow, stain, or even smell like pee. It's so diluted, it's basically a different liquid all together... except that it's technically not. If you find it pleasurable and it came from a (lol) explosive orgasm, just embrace it and roll with it. Bodies do weird things we don't expect them to sometimes and do we really need one more thing to be shamed for in this world? Viva la squirting!Source: iStock
You Can Squirt Without Having An OrgasmSquirting comes from a release in the muscles surrounding your urethra and bladder due to pleasure. So, your body or someone else's body at the right angle will do it and so will surrendering the tension in your body. Given those two triggers, it's likely that squirting comes as a direct result of an orgasm, but it doesn't have to be. You can squirt any time when you hook up with someone or by yourself, but the myth that it's indicative of a really big orgasm is totally false. Sure, it probably means you're having a good time, but it doesn't mean you're coming right that moment.Source: iStock
It Doesn't Always Gush OutIf you've ever witnessed squirting in a porn video, you may have seen it come "squirting" out quickly. But this isn't usually accurate. Squirting comes in smaller quantities than in porn. Since it's likely most of you have first made contact with squirting in porn, it's worth noting that those performers drink a ton of water before they start shooting. It's a visual trick. Nobody squirts that much. Other than small quantities in volume, you're more likely to eek out little tiny squirts over time, so you may have squirted and not even realized it. The big gush of liquid we hear about can happen, but that doesn't have to happen all the time. Source: iStock
On Average, You Won't Squirt More Than An OunceThe average person squirts between 0.1 and 0.5 liquid ounces. For a visual, your menstrual cup holds one ounce of liquid, so at average, you're never going to release more than half of that from your body. You hear about people feeling like they dumped out a cup of water on their beds, but that might have more to do with them being really um, hydrated rather than really squirt-y. Oops, I said it. Squirting can gush or cover a great amount of area, but in terms of the actual volume of liquid, it's not likely to be any more than an ounce.Source: iStock
Everyone With A Vagina Is Capable Of Squirting/Ejaculating, But Not Everyone CanIf you have a vagina, you have a Skene's gland and if you pee, you have a bladder. So, in theory, everybody can ejaculate and squirt, but it doesn't mean that they necessarily can or do. Due to the person's state of mind, level of arousal, sensitivity, medical conditions, general apprehension, use of certain techniques over others, squirting or ejaculating can feel near impossible. It's anatomical and psychological. If neither of those are lining up, ejaculating and squirting is going to be difficult. However, it's not the be all end all of sexual pleasure. What matters most is that you're having a good time, making empowered choices, doing what feels fun for you, getting all the pleasure you can, and staying safe. So you don't squirt - so what? I can't ride a bike and my life isn't any more or less exciting than anyone else's. Everybody's different.Source: iStock
Australia And UK Have Banned Porn Videos Showing SquirtingWay to be an overprotective dad, dudes. Australia and the UK have denied that women can ejaculate and are clinging to the science that shows that squriting comes from the bladder (okay, true). Since they've deemed women urinating (not *really* but okay) from sexual pleasure as obscene, they've banned porn videos showing women squirting. Just a straight up government firewall on that stuff. Cool, dad. This is where you draw the line? Empowered female sexuality? LOL. Alright, then. Source: iStock
Have you ever squirted or ejaculated? Was it one or both? Did you freak out or love it? Let us know in the comments!
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