As an only child, I’m used to all of the typical stereotypes: Spoiled brat, attention whore, mommy’s or daddy’s girl. Blah, blah, blah, whatever. But then there’s selfishness, and of all of the claims made against me just for being sibling-less, this one stings the most. There’s something harsh about the word selfish, isn’t there? Maybe it’s the serpentine pronunciation that gives us the chills, but being called selfish is the worst. I know because I’ve been there, and it’s not a fun place to be. When you grow up with the full attention of your parents at all times, it can sometimes be hard not to think about your reality in terms of what benefits you more than anyone else.
There are a lot of people out there who are incredibly selfish who just don’t know it, because nobody has had the pleasure of letting them know the truth: They’re a self-centered brat that needs to know that the world doesn’t revolve around them. Of course, this isn’t just a feature that only children possess; all kinds of people from all walks of life can be selfish, and most have no idea that so many of their actions reek of it. Well, if you’re paranoid that you might fit the bill, check out these six signs that you’re actually pretty selfish first, and then see if this was the wakeup call you needed.
You're Totally Checked Out When You're Not Doing Something You WantIt's really obvious too. Okay, so everyone went to the stores in the mall that YOU wanted to go to, and we all watched a few episodes of the TV show that YOU wanted to...but then when it's time for others to decide what to do, you act like you'd rather be anywhere else on the planet. You might think you're being subtle...but you're not.
It's Your Way Or The HighwayAre you the type of person who gets furious when somebody doesn't immediately respond to your text, but you spend ages getting back to others? Yeah, see, the world consists of more than just you, and relationships are reciprocal. The sooner you learn that, the better your relationships will be....and the better person you'll be too. There's a time for all of us to be a little bossy and to take charge--especially as women, since we're so often told that being assertive makes us bitchy--but there's a time and a place...and it's definitely not ALL the time.
You Always Do Things Hoping For Something In ReturnHey, so there's this little thing called "selflessness" in which we do things for others out of the goodness of our hearts, not because we expect something to benefit ourselves. It's actually pretty great, you should consider trying it.
You Don't Buy Your Friends Presents But You Feel Slighted When You Don't Get OneOkay, maybe we've all been there from time to time. So you neglect to give your friend a birthday gift (hey, you showed up, that's gift enough, right?), but when it's your time to have a birthday, you get your undies in a bunch because you're not getting showered with gifts. You can't expect to have it both ways.
You've Only Done Good Things To Look Good To Other PeopleIt's nice that you do volunteer work or help someone out...but is it because you actually believe in helping others? Or do you just want to look good and make it seem like you give a damn when you actually don't? This self-centered way at going about life is so disingenuous, dude. You might fool people for a while, but the routine gets really old really quickly. People will start to get super sus.
You Think The World Is Out To Get YouIt's not, it just doesn't revolve around you and your wants and needs at every hour of everyday. You can't get everything that you want, but you'll live, I promise.
Is there someone in your life who you wish you can call selfish to their face? Tell us in the comments!