When you think of learning about practicing safe sex, you probably think about someone coming into your health class and rolling a condom on a banana. That’s fine, but why do we never discuss safe sex items for girls having sex with other girls? Of course, heterosexual sex brings along the possibility of an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy, while lesbian sex does not, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t still at risk of other complications. STDs and STIs can still be transmitted between two women from sharing bodily fluids and having genital contact for an extended period of time. Never forget: back in the ’80s and earlier, gay men assumed they could have sex without condoms since they didn’t face the risk of pregnancy. This led to a spread of HIV and AIDs before anyone knew anything about the virus (which is why so many people thought AIDs was something only gay men could contract). Lesbians require safe sex items too.
It can sometimes seem like the idea that sex between too women is safe without protection comes from homophobia – because of the lack of penetration, it isn’t thought of as “real sex.” On top of that, so many of us only learn about several safe sex options, like condoms, birth control pills, and Plan B. All of these go back to preventing pregnancy, aside from condoms, which makes you think you don’t need anything when getting down and dirty with another vagina. The truth is, no matter who you’re sleeping with, you need to make an effort to protect yourself. Here are seven items that will help you have safe sex if you hook up with girls. Go get ’em!
Nitrile GlovesNothing screams safe sex like things you can find at your doctor's office, am I right? I'm so wrong, actually. You can buy these where you can buy most surgical gloves, but you can buy ones that come in sexier colors at a sex toy shop (black! purple! red!) that *won't* remind you of the dentist. Aside from keeping your hands protected, these are great for protecting your partner against your nails. If you want to have long nails and have sex with women, good for you, but if you don't want to scratch up your partner's insides, get yourself some gloves. They're also good if you have short nails and they're too sharp because you just cut them. Yes, it's going to feel like you have a rubber glove inside you, but it's all in the name of keeping yourself protected from STIs. Source: iStock
Finger CotsFinger cots, for those of you who don't already know, are basically little baby condoms for individual fingers. When your nails are too sharp or too long and you want to prevent your partner from getting scratched up, finger cots are the way to go. They're great if you find gloves too restrictive and want to keep sensation in the rest of your hand. And because it comes with the territory when you talk about using your hands during sex, if you're going to put your finger in someone's butt, this is an excellent form of protection for that as well. Source: iStock
Dental DamsThe thing that your dentist uses to protect your throat during cleanings is now a sexy thing! YAAAAS (sarcasm - I know, no one wants to think of the dentist when they have sex... unless you're into that). I know dental dams are mostly the punchline to lesbian sex jokes, but they're there to protect you and your partner during oral sex and analingus. Yup! Dental dams come in handy for rim jobs too; just make sure that you use different ones for the vulva and for butt stuff. They're for everyone! If you're in a pinch or don't have one handy, dental dams can be made by cutting off the tip of a male condom and slicing it up the side. Source: iStock
CondomsNo penetrative P&V sex, no condom, right? Wrong. Condoms can and should be used on toys that are porous and therefore cannot be sterilized 100 percent. To be safe, I'd use one on all toys shared between partners, but that's just me. They can turn into dental dams in a pinch. Even if you swear you'd never have penetrative sex with a penis, condoms are good to have around. They're multi-purpose and free at some gyms, college health centers, and women's health clinics. What's not to love? Save that money!Source: iStock
LubeA good rule of thumb: whenever you're using barriers in sex, you're probably going to need some lube. Even if you aren't having penetrative sex with a strap on or other sex toy, lube is great for the receiving party. Lube keeps wet things wet. The less friction or contrast in sensation between parts-that-touch, the better the sex. Lube up the side of your safer sex item that's touching someone's genitals. Even if you're just using this in addition to manual or oral sex (and triple down on the lube for butt stuff, please), keep the lube handy when you're having safe sex, no matter what your partner's gender. Source: iStock
Toy CleanerSome sex toys don't do well with soap or can't be fully sterilized. For example, battery powered toys should not be submerged under water for an extended period of time the way that you have to when you sterilize something. This is where some handy dandy toy cleaner comes into play. Just spray some on your toy, get to scrubbing, and wipe it clean with a damp cloth, and you should be good to go. A lot of people don't like the idea of sharing toys with a former partner of their current partner, but even if you're exclusively sharing a dildo or strap on with the person you're sleeping with now, you should still clean before and after each use to prevent bacterial build up and the transference of germs. Source: Buy it at Adam & Eve for $10.95
Soap And WaterLadies, clean under your fingernails please. Cutting them would be great, too. For both your partner's and your sake, there can be tiny cuts on your hands you don't even know about. You don't need that transferance of bacteria on both ends of that equation. The Safe Sex Police aren't going to come to your room and make sure you're using protection while using your hands, but at the very absolute least, you have to wash them. Ever eat something with hot sauce during your day and then bring your hands a little too close to your eye balls? Cool, now imagine the havoc that would happen on someone's vagina. Wash. Your. Hands.Source: iStock
Do you practice safer sex when you’re with girls? Or do you choose not to? Let us know in the comments!
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