So my best friend has a brother, and she swears that we are perfect for each other. (He’s three years older than me) and their mom and dad both say the same. I just wanted to know if there was a way to tell if he actually does like me? He is WAY nicer to me than he is his sister, but is that just being nice? From what I know, the brother is always as mean to the sister’s best friend as he is to the sister?
While at first you might think that since this guy is your friend’s brother, there is some secret way of knowing more or different way you should approach the situation, it’s actually like any other guy you’re going to meet. Sure, you’ve interacted with him before, which at some level makes things less awkward, but insofar as his inner feelings are concerned, you need to play this like you’ve never met him. Take things slow, and let the sparks form naturally.
Much like when friends try to date, what you’re doing here is redefining the relationship you have with this guy. Up until now, he’s just been your friend’s brother, but the fact that you two might start dating puts him into a completely different category. With that in mind, treat the situation like any other first date, and be as cautious as usual in terms of letting things go too fast.
There is one other large concern that I have whenever you consider dating the sibling of a friend, and that’s how things can go bad if the two of you break up. Even if you and your friend are super close, if you date her brother and things fall apart, it can severely damage your friendship. Much like with her brother, the nature of your relationship with your friend will change if and when dating begins. Even if you try your hardest, you could lose both of them in the end, so think things through before you go one way or the other.
In the end, there are a number of benefits to dating a friend’s sibling, especially since you already know each other to a certain extent. However, a breakup can lead to you losing many important people in your life, so be sure you think it can succeed before you agree to anything beyond a casual first date.
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