When you start having sex, there are a ton of things that are going through your mind the whole time. And then, it’s over like that, because the first time you have sex normally doesn’t last that long. That’s okay! Even though it’s totally normal to have short sex, it can be a bit annoying. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable, and not seem like a race to the finish line.
Recently, User kimmieecake came to our boards with an issue. She wrote “[My boyfriend and I] had sex but I was on top and I swear it was like 3-4 pumps or whatever you want to call it when you’re on top riding and he came! Maybe 10 seconds he lasted. I was a little disappointed I may say. So my question is how do you make it all last longer? Skip the foreplay and go straight to it? I don’t mind that sometimes. I almost think if I hadn’t gave a little hj he wouldn’t have been done so fast. I couldn’t even tell you what it felt like because it happened so fast. Please help!!” Obviously, everyone is different, and some things work for some people but not for others. The best thing you can do is figure out what is comfortable for both you and your partner! Luckily, our users have all been there, so here is what they said to help sex last longer.
Try Twicerenesd2015 said, "Each guy is different and as with many things practice helps last longer. One thing that helps is for the guy to cum once, the second boner will last longer. So once he finishes, work him to another boner." Image Source: iStock
The Trick Is The Condomssteffigal2001 said, "Just like everyone else said, the second time should last longer. Try thicker condoms too!" Image Source: iStock
Try Different Foreplaycrushesinwv said, "I had a bf like that when I was much younger, until he learned to control it better and make it last longer. I found giving him a hj or bj first helped him last longer when we had sex afterwards." Image Source: iStock
Do Other Things Besides SexNedezhda said, "I had a boyfriend that struggled with both premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. But his oral sex game was AMAZING and we played around with toys as well. There's loads to experiment with in bedroom that doesn't involve penetrative sex!" Image Source: iStock
Practice Practice PracticeRagazzaMatta said, "Our first time wasn't very long. Maybe 5 minutes? But I didn't expect him to be able to go that long since it was the first time. Now he can go much longer! But I don't think it's OK to get mad at a guy for cumming fast. They don't have the control we do. It just means you did a good job IMO!" Image Source: iStock
Make Him WaitWaterBaby said, "You could also try having him pull out and wait a second when he gets close to finishing." Image Source: iStock
Try Teasingemma525x said, "Even if you're in the middle of sex just stop for a second if he's getting close, maybe a bj for a minute or two in the middle, just slow teasing type, should at least get him off the brink of blowing his load too quickly!" Image Source: iStock
What do you think of these tips from our users? Do you have any questions about sex? Come talk to us on the boards!