Why Harley Quinn And The Joker Are The Worst Relationship Goals

I know I’m a bit late to the game here, but I recently saw Suicide Squad for the first time and it made me mad. I mean, there are plenty of things that are weird about it, but the number one annoying thing about the movie was the relationship between Harley Quinn and The Joker. If you don’t know the back story, here is a short summary: Harley Quinn was a doctor who was supposed to treat The Joker and  ended up falling in love with him. They then became villains together, wreaking havoc on the city. Sounds romantic, right?

A lot of people say that the point of their relationship is to be unstable and abusive. While that might be true in terms of the story, that still does not make it okay. I know it’s “just a movie” but a lot of The Joker’s abusive tactics are real ways that people abuse their partners in a relationship without even knowing it, which is a scary thing. While some people think that their portrayal in the movie is actually a #RelationshipGoal let me just tell you that it IS NOT. Here is why.


The Joker manipulated Harley…with “love.”

The Joker used the fact that Harley was head-over-heels with him to his advantage. He asked her to help him break out of the asylum. This begs the question: did he ever actually love her? Or was he just using her? Either way, he manipulates her into breaking him free.


He physically abused her

This is where I started getting angry. The Joker physically tortures Harley Quinn. I get that he is supposed to be a “mad man” and it’s part of the character, but that is NOT a relationship goal, that is a dangerous man who Harley thought she could ‘fix’ but just ended up getting physically assaulted.


He asked her to die for him.

In perhaps the weirdest scene of the movie, The Joker asks Harley if she would “die for him.” Okay, if anyone ever asks you that you have to run as fast as you can in the other direction. But Harley,being manipulated by The Joker said yes. What would happen if she had said no? Well he would probably kill her. Are you getting the pattern in this movie? The Joker is dangerous.


He offered her up.

At one point in the movie, The Joker tries to get Harley to have sex with some guy in a club, which is wrong on so many level. First, it’s making the impression that the only thing she’s good for is her body. Second, why would you do this to a woman you supposedly love? Ugh.


The main overarching theme here is that people may want to romanticize the couple, but at the end of the day, they are an unhealthy and non-goal worthy relationship. Even Margot Robbie, the actress who played Harley believed that their relationship was abusive.  Next time you hear someone praising The Joker and Harley’s relationship, tell them to stop ASAP.
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  • Breannalyn Pearce-Raposa

    Why do all fictional relationships have to be ‘healthy’? I think what makes the romance so alluring in any fictional ‘relationship’ is seeing something unique & slightly twisted. Hence Tate & Violet from AHS, or Belle & the Beast. Our most loved couples are the twisted ones. I don’t think anyone actually wants to be abused. I mean it’s all just fiction…no one is getting hurt, and what’s wrong with having a guilty pleasure that isn’t portrayed as ‘healthy’? Who cares. It’s unique. It got millions of people’s attention & they loved it. That is what mattered not some stupid psychosis label.

    • Luna

      I think the problem stems more from the fact that too many people don’t seem to REALIZE how abusive the relationship is. The danger comes from those who view them as a healthy, loving couple and seek to emulate their behavior. It’s one thing to enjoy watching something knowing it wouldn’t be ok in real life, but it’s completely different when the person genuinely doesn’t understand that there’s something wrong with the way Joker treats her. It was the same deal with The Phantom Of The Opera. Girls were going around saying they “wanted to find a guy like Erik”, when in reality he was deranged, obsessive, and toxic.

  • Susan Damens

    Sometimes people fall into the same old routine, you should read michael weffelizza book 300 dates and see there’s a lot other stuff you can do but watching netflix,