7 Real Girls Discuss How To Know When You’re Ready For Sex

Picture this: you’re in a new relationship with a great person, you like them a lot, and you spend all your free time with them. Then, one day, all of a sudden, one of you brings up the sex you haven’t had yet – ever – and things get awkward and confusing. Suddenly, you can’t think about anything else except “Should I do it?” and “How do I know if I’m ready?” It can be hard to know when you are actually ready to have sex. You know you want to do it, but is it the right time? Are you really ready, or are do you just want to be ready in order to keep up with everyone?  The good news is: you are not alone. Sex is scary and intimidating for everyone. It’s up to you to tell when you are really ready, but it can be terrifying.

Recently, user kimbella1012 from our boards said, “Do you think there are certain points in a relationship that things should start happening?” There are plenty of other girls who feel the need to start having sex just because they have been with a person for a long time. But there are also plenty of girls who are scared of sex. Another user, JuniorGirl15, said,I am terrified to have sex. What should I do about this?  What if the right guy comes along and he wants to ‘do it,’ what should I do?”

It’s important not to panic, because that might make the whole situation a lot trickier. The bottom line is this: there is no rulebook to sex. You can have sex on the first date, or never have sex with your partner and both are fine. It’s normal to be scared, excited or confused. If you find yourself wondering if you are really ready, see what some of our girls said and take their advice:


There Is No 'Right' Time

haileysd said, "I would just reiterate that there is no objectively right time/age/whatever. Do what feels right for you...that's the only guide there is. And always take any precautions necessary."

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Wait Until It's Legal

emmalution said, "Honestly, only you can decide whether or not you're ready for those things. I wouldn't recommend having sex for a while yet though, the laws are there for a reason. I waited until I was 16, and even I think that may have been too early for some people."

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Decide Based On How Comfortable You Are

SweetTayla said, "It's up to you. What you're comfortable with is a decision you make yourself."

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Move At Your Own Pace

alegnatm said, "Everyone moves at their own pace and like the other girls said it's all about what you are comfortable with. I personally wish that I had waited longer to lose my virginity but I can't take that back. Just remember that you have lots of time and you don't need to rush anything."

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Don't Worry About It

OmgItsRira said, "Just don't worry about it. You still have your whole life to begin, and when the time comes around, you'll know when you're 'ready'"

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When You Meet The Right Person You'll Be Ready

immaeat_choo said, "When you meet the right guy, you won't be terrified anymore. Only have sex when you are ready for it and you truly want to."

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Don't Be Afraid To Say No

maddiegurl said, "Don't do anything your not comfortable with. And don't be afraid to say no. Sex is supposed to be beautiful and share with somebody you truly love. Not just because your bf wants to."

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