There are tons of annoying stereotypes out there, but two of the most annoying and common ones for females are these: you’re either a tomboy or a girly girl. Everyone knows what these mean. Tomboys wear jeans and sneakers, they play sports, and they hate makeup. Girly girls wear dresses, they love to shop, and they own over 50 shades of nail polish. You’re either a Regina George or a Cady Heron pre-plastic, and there’s no in-between.
Uh, okay. I don’t know about you guys, but I’m sick of the stereotypes about girly girls and about tomboys.
Sure, some girls fit that mold. Some girls really are the true definition of a tomboy, while others can best be described as “girly.” But even those girls can’t be defined in such a neat little box, and most women end up having characteristics of both types. You can absolutely be feminine and wear makeup but still love sports. No one has to fit into a specific mold, and no one should feel like they have to. Every “girly girl” has experienced that moment when someone is shocked they get good grades or enjoy reading – and that sucks. Here are 12 other stereotypes about girly girls that definitely aren’t true – and it’s time they go away.
1. We hate sports.
No, we don’t cry when we break a nail. Being feminine doesn’t mean we can’t also be strong and athletic. Didn’t you see Regina George turn into a crazy competitive lacrosse player after she got over the misconception that she had to act a specific way to be a popular girl?
2. We spend a lot of time on our makeup every day.
Maybe we do, maybe we don’t. You can be feminine without wearing a lot of makeup, or you can enjoy eyeshadow, lipstick, contouring, and more. And don’t think we wear makeup for other people—we wear makeup because we like the way it makes us feel, not the way it makes you look at us.
3. We’re all boy crazy.
Being a “girly girl” means we’re obsessed with boys, right? We can focus our attention on one romantic interest. We can have platonic male friends just like the “tomboys” do. We can be attracted to other girls. Or we can huge flirts, and that’s okay too.
4. We’re all catty.
The notion that girls have to fight dirty with other girls to stay on top is one of the biggest problems we face as females. We don’t have to make other girls look worse to make ourselves look better. You can be feminine and a feminist.
5. We refuse to get dirty.
Sure, dirt, blood, and bugs can make anyone squirm, but wearing makeup and a dress doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy any hands-on activities. We can roll up our sleeves, too.
6. Our favorite hobby is shopping.
Who doesn’t love retail therapy, amirite? But we do more than hang out at the mall. We are interested in so much more than finding the cutest clothes to add to our closet.
7. We’re overly emotional.
Why do people think we’ll cry any time we don’t get our way? Or yell if anyone makes us angry? Being passionate is not a crime, but being a girly girl doesn’t equate mascara tears and cat fights.
8. We only wear skirts and dresses.
If we want to wear a skirt or dress, what’s stopping us? But we can rock a pair of skinny jeans like no other, too. And don’t get us started on how comfortable yoga pants are.
9. We hate tomboys.
If you’re different than us, we won’t be friends with you. False! We’re not the Pink Ladies from Grease; you don’t need a pink satin jacket to join our “club.”
10. We’re only interested in romance novels and rom-coms.
We might tear up during The Notebook, but that doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy action, drama, mystery, documentary and all the other genres available in our Netflix queue.
11. We’re not very smart.
The “dumb blonde” stereotype is just offensive. People can care about their appearance and also have a brain. Being pretty and smart at the same time is possible!
12. We’re all the same.
Even the girliest of girly girls has her own unique personality and interests. We’re not Stepford wives. Trust a girly girl like you would anyone else—like a person.
Do you think of yourself as a girly girl? What stereotype did we forget to include? Let us know in the comments.