Hooking up with your crush can be awesome – unless they have a girlfriend. What’s even worse is when their girlfriend is your friend. Yikes. It can be hard to say no to a boy you like, but is it really worth putting your friendship on the line? Is it ever okay to hook up with your friend’s boyfriend? Is it ever okay to hook up with anyone’s boyfriend? Obviously, certain situations are different than others, but some girls from our boards weighed in on a particular situation.
User NeverlandNight recently brought up this issue on our boards. She wrote: “A few months ago [my friend] started dating a new guy. Then her bf started flirting with me…and we kissed at a party. That the next day, the bf told me he felt something he couldn’t explain when we kissed, I think that it is the moment he started having a crush on me. A lot has happened since then, the bf and I got really close and quickly became friends but there always was that sexual tension. One day, I went to his house, just to hang out and the next thing I knew we were making out in his bed, naked. It happened A LOT. The worst part is that I don’t even feel guilty anymore and my friend has no idea of what’s going on. Am I a terrible person ? What can I do ? I don’t wanna stop… but my two biggest fears are that my friend finds out or that I start falling in love with that guy. I shouldn’t fall in love with him, right?”
Another user recently also brought up her experience with hooking up with someone who already had a girlfriend. So, what would you do if you hook up with someone who is dating someone else? Here is what some of our users said:
End ItWaterBaby said, "Until they break up, yes you need to stop. He either breaks up with her and you guys get together, or nothing needs to be going on at all." Image Source: iStock
Own Up To ItOmgItsRira said, "I get why you won't tell her; because you don't want to hurt her, but you already have. What you do in the dark comes to light eventually. Better to be the bigger person and own up to your mistake." Image Source: iStock
Break It Off, He Just Wants Sex!Theboringgirls said, "Dude he doesn't love you, he just want's you for sex. Break the whole thing up before your friend finds out and everything gets nasty." Image Source: iStock
Confess, ASAPgamergirl117 said, "At least you need to tell your friend." Image Source: iStock
No Matter What, It Won't End WellSweetTayla said, "It's hard to see how this isn't going to end in tears." Image Source: iStock
Get Out Before It's Too LateNocturnalMistress said, "He's pretty much using you, in my opinion, and it will more than likely be a never ending cycle of him doing so." Image Source: iStock
Move On, He's Not Worth ItLaurenA said, "Honestly he is not worth the time or effort. I think you need to move on, because what he did to his girlfriend he would not hesitate to do it to you too." Image Source: iStock
Have you even been in a situation like this? What did you do? Talk to other girls about it on our boards!