Acting mature is such a weird, nebulous term. What does it even mean anyway, and when are we supposed to have it done? By a certain age? Are we supposed to be totally mature and adult the second we graduate high school, or can we wait until college is over? Do we have to have a certain amount of money in the bank or wear certain things to make people think we’re mature with our lives together? Basically, being mature means that your life is in oder and everything is pretty well put together. Coming off as responsible and reliable and totally ~*adult*~ is the ultimate goal, but it’s also extremely overwhelming. How do you get people to think you’re grown-up when you don’t feel like you are? You can start by following these little tricks, or life hacks, if you will.
The truth is that you don’t need to be the most mature person in your age group right now. Maturity doesn’t happen overnight, or even over the course of a few months. It’s a process and kind of a state of mind. You can be an adult with a really high profile job and still feel like a complete mess. A lot of us forget that sometimes. If you’re feeling stuck or bogged down by life in a way that’s preventing you from having everything in order, there are some tricks you can do to get around that… or to at least make it seem like you’re okay. The ability to pull yourself out of your own muck is just one of the many signs that you’re a person who has their life together, so getting started is a clear indicator that you’re on the right path. Try out these tricks that will make you seem more mature – so much so, that eventually, they’ll actually make you become more mature, too.
Have Siri Remind You To Do ThingsRegardless of what kind of smart phone you have, chances are, there's some form of digital assistant you can talk to. If you're forgetful or juggling too many things at the same time, you can just dictate that Siri remind you to do that thing in an hour (or whenever). She'll put things in your calendars and even text people back... it's great. These digital assistants exist for the sole purpose of helping your get your life together, so use her to do that instead of just making her respond to awkward questions. Personally, I wouldn't be nearly as productive as I am without my girl, Siri. She rocks. Source: iStock
Put Things In Your Calendar Right AwayNot when you get home, not later, right now. Do it now. The hard truth about people who flake out is that they most likely don't want to blow you off, they probably just full on forgot to meet you in the first place. I blame under-used calendars. Whether you write it down in a planner, on your school agenda, or in your calendar on your phone, write whatever you need to remember down so you don't forget it. It's going to keep you accountable and keep you from accidentally not showing up somewhere or leaving projects until the last minute. Well kept calendars save lives. Source: iStock
Confirm Before You Show UpNot everybody is going to have their shit together - or even care to - like you do. So, before you show up somewhere, confirm that it's happening a few hours or even a day before. It's a good reminder for yourself and anyone else involved. If someone accidentally double booked themselves, now you have enough time to reschedule so you're not showing up somwhere everyone else forgot about and you don't waste your time. Learning how to keep your time well managed is one of the most key parts of getting your shit together. Source: iStock
Commit To Learning Basic Life SkillsThe "lol how do I adult?" trope is only charming for so long. Can't even boil water? Start by learning how to cook something simple. Learn how to change a tire by yourself, keep a plant alive, sew a button, and make your own doctors appointments. There are an infinite amount of resources that can make daunting tasks that much more bearable. Ask your parents to help you. Knowing the right PSI on your tires can help you when you think you have a flat. Don't know what PSI is? You've got a great place to start. Take it task by task and you'll have your shit together in no time. Source: iStock
Start A Savings AccountMy friend, who's a financial analyst, put it this way: you pay your bills and other life expenses, so why aren't you paying yourself? Truth bomb! Opening a savings account is easy. If you're working a summer job this year, you're going to need somewhere to put your paychecks anyway. You don't even need to be saving for something in particular - if you have a savings goal or a large purchase in mind, that's great - but, there's nothing more comforting than knowing that you can provide for yourself if something were to go horribly wrong. My friend suggested putting 10 percent of whatever you get in savings and the rest in your checking, and I agree. You don't need to save away absolutely everything you make, but starting to save some is a great step in the right direction.Source: iStock
Break Down Big Tasks Into Tiny TasksGiant research paper? Sucks. Finding just one source and taking notes on it for a half hour? Totally do-able. That's less than an episode of Orange Is The New Black. Easy! A lot of acting maturer feels sisyphean af, so a lot of us give up before we even try because just the thought of trying to tackle it all is so overwhelming that it's paralyzing. Well, you don't try to eat an entire burger in one mouthful, do you? Take small bites out of this monumental task, whatever it is, and suddenly it doesn't seem so big or monstrous anymore, does it? NBD. You won't be defetaed by being overwhelmed, you'll surmount it, which is a clear sign that you're on your way to getting your shit together.Source: iStock
Get Invested In A Hobby You LoveDo something that's purely for fun that you have no professional or accidemic attachment to. Having an outlet with a sole purpose of bringing you joy is going to give your brain a really necessary break. Working too hard or stressing too much is antithetical to getting your shit together. Overhwelming pressure can lead to exhaustion and a lot of disorganized thoughts and behaviors. Little hobbies or activities you like can keep you grounded, weirdly enough. I know it's weird to think about a dance class being really key in your mental well being and productivity, but I'm telling you - it works in the best way possible. Source: iStock
Start Organizing Your LifeEverything from your desktop, to your closet, your car, and your inbox - GET THAT STUFF ORGANIZED. Everyone I know just got obsessed with tidying up and organizing their life all in the name of getting their shit together. The connector between the two is that cluttered work spaces and living spaces reflect cluttered, unkempt thought. Having a neat, organized space is going to make your life and work easier. I'm not saying that I'm the neatest person in the world, but beginning to make an effort on keeping a tidy space is going to do wonders for you in the long run. Source: iStock
Get Rid Of Things You Don't NeedThis is especially true for your closet. I have no idea why closets are so linked to having your life together, but it's just how it is. Start by getting rid of stuff you don't want or need anymore. You'll be surprised by how much "trash" you've been holding on to. Once you get rid of the things you don't want, a literal visible space will suddenly appear, ready for all the stuff in your life you *do* want. Magic, right? You'll be more organized and it'll give you a clearer idea about what you'd like to do with all of your free physical/mental open space. All the possibilities! All of the things! Yay!Source: iStock
Quit Wasting Your Time On Toxic PeopleI know it sounds like a friendship rule, but hanging with toxic people can really prevent you from getting your shit together. These negative energies are going to keep you distracted and depressed. They're likely to put down your ambitions and take active measures to keep you from maturing and growing. Why? They're having so much fun being the opposite of what you aspire to be and the thought of you being NOT like them is scary, so they make toxic power moves to keep you down. Not okay. These people need to get out of your life or at least change their behaviors if you want to get your life in order.Source: iStock
Do you have your shit together? Do you want to? What are you waiting for? Let us know in the comments!
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