At this point, I think that most of us have turned against the concept of relationship goals. The main issue, I think, is that relationship goals show a very small part of a relationship–you know, with the giant teddy bears, chin-kissing, and leaving lone Pringles on their lovers’ doorsteps–and allow that small piece to speak for the relationship as a whole. We did a post a while back about things in relationships that are often perceived as being cute, but, in reality, are pretty abusive. These are things like sending overly-protective texts when one partner’s going out for the night, or cutting off arguments with kisses–things that don’t automatically signify abuse, and can certainly be cute in small doses, but don’t really make for the most healthy relationship overall.
Obviously, you can’t really make overarching statements and judgments about relationships based on a single photo or sound byte, so it’s not really fair to label a relationship based off one definitive thing without really knowing that much about it. But, if you think about it, this is the same logic that the entire concept of relationship goals lies on, anyway. so, let’s turn the concept on its head, shall we? Check out these relationship goals that might actually be abusive:
1. Sending a “come outside” text that ends with “I don’t care what you say:”
Don’t make your girlfriend think there’s something seriously wrong if all you want to do is hang out with them!
2. Making your fiancee wear clown noses to evade an argument:
AVOIDANCE IS NOT A GOOD RELATIONSHIP STRATEGY.
3. Deciding that being a girlfriend gives you the right to call yourself a “psycho:”
Me when I have a boyfriend pic.twitter.com/Lp7BGI84K7
— what (@chanelpuke) June 5, 2016
Not a good look. (Or relationship, for that matter!!)
4. Being really possessive:
actual relationship goals pic.twitter.com/9ghKaR3wdi
— scooter (@gattie0310) December 19, 2015
5. So possessive that you’re open about the fact that you will literally draw and quarter any girl who likes any of their Instagrams:
If a picture could describe me as a girlfriend it would be this one. pic.twitter.com/dbdztAIuco
— Autumn Veres (@autumnshyenne) December 24, 2015
6. And you won’t let them leave you for one second:
When you don't want bae to leave pic.twitter.com/XvwHcUyti9
— You And Babe (@YouAndBabe) July 1, 2015
7. Like this:
Me as a girlfriend pic.twitter.com/tFHPDSQTBP
— J (@missjdoll) December 6, 2015
Don’t do it.
8. Acting like a baby to get bae to pay attention to you:
Bad for both of you, tbh.
9. Aspiring for a JFK/Jackie O. realtionship:
Aesthetically, yes–a very pleasing couple. But he cheated on her a lot a lot a lot.
10. And Daisy and Gatsby:
relationship goals: love me like gatsby loves daisy pic.twitter.com/GI8LYUu3JS
— Brooke (@brookesalazar) April 28, 2014
You, uh, read the book, right?
11. Not letting them leave your sight for, like, a second:
Breathing room! It’s important!
12. Giving gifts with very clearly defined strings attached:
Christmas Relationship Goals AF pic.twitter.com/berXCZRJHd
— Where To Cop (@WhereToCop) December 25, 2015
Giving someone Gucci slides is an inforgivable act in and of itself, tbh.
13. Implying that your SO’s baby is similar to a baseball–you know, in that you think it’s appropriate to hit:
Relationship goals? pic.twitter.com/DTcumlBkuL
— Clawed Meownet (@___ThisIsHell) December 20, 2015
14. And, finally, making a contract on how, exactly, your boyfriend is meant to act around “hoes:”
Found on the floor after class in a middle school: a relationship contract between 8th graders. (He signed it) pic.twitter.com/SPmDjNdjVi
— max linsky (@maxlinsky) June 10, 2016
What do you think of these relationship goals? Let us know in the comments!