7 Tips On What To Do If Someone Wants To Anal Finger You

When it comes to stages of hooking up, fingering (stimulating the genitals of a female with your finger, if you’d like to get technical) is pretty basic. Fingering usually happens when you first start hooking up with someone and you guys are still just doing a lot of passionate make-out sessions with your clothes on. While vaginal fingering is somewhere between second and third base, I would say that anal fingering (AKA putting your fingers in someone’s butthole for pleasure) flies past home base. There’s just something about sexual butt stuff that seems more intimate than standard P & V sex things. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t people out there who are into anal fingering! #FingersInTheBootyAssBitch – never forget.

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Maybe you’ve never experienced anal fingering and the cutie you’re hooking up with is trying to work their fingers back there. They promise you’ll enjoy it and assure you they’ll be gentle, but the thought of something going into your back end freaks you out so much that you can’t go through with it. You definitely don’t have to! But what if you’re feeling just a little bit curious? 

A post taken from the boards asks SHREKLOVERSo this super hot, very nice guy I want to hookup with wants to try anal fingering, but I don’t know how that would feel. I am very scared about how this his fingers inside my butthole being really painful and what if he gets my feces on his finger?! Please give me advice on if I should or shouldn’t try allow this guy to anal finger me. Who hasn’t been scared to try something sexual but also a little intrigued? If you’re not into anal fingering, you absolutely do not have to do it – and if it makes you feel very uncomfortable, you shouldn’t. But if you’re curious about trying it out, then you’ll want to follow these tips first. Here are seven girls’ advice on what to do if a guy wants to anal finger you: 


Try Showering Together First

lucypurple3 said:

I know this can be a weird subject! Just make sure you're really clean before he puts anything near your butthole (fingers, mouth, penis). You can't think about it too much or you'll tense up and if he puts his fingers in that hole, it will hurt. For your first experience together, maybe try showering together first, so you're not overly paranoid about your feces getting anywhere on him (which it wont).

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Don't Stress About It

NocturnalMistress said:

Unfortunately if this is something you are wanting to go through with, there is nothing you can do to make sure everything in your butthole is squeaky clean. It's just part of the human body! If he knows he is going to put his finger(s) up there, he should be capable of realizing what may or may not happen (him getting anything on his finger). I wouldn't worry about it too much.

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Have Him Go Slow And Use Lube

brooksy42 said:

Personally I love it anal fingering! As long as this takes his time and doesn't rush anything, there shouldn't be any pain. But if you are still afraid of the pain and maybe him getting feces or whatever onto his finger, have him put some lube on his finger before he inserts it into your butthole.

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Practice Makes It Better

GlendaN said:

As with anything, anal fingering will get better in time. My first time experiencing this was very weird for me too. I just couldn't relax, and I kept thinking about what was going on back there. It also weirded me out that I didn't have a view of what he was doing. I just had to concentrate on the feeling. After a while, though, I really started to enjoy it and my boyfriend slides his fingers into my butt all the time now.

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Use Only One Finger For Awhile

Amandababe said:

Don't let him use more than one finger inside your butthole. Maybe let him know that you don't know if two fingers inside you at the same time would be a good idea yet because just one finger did hurt a little. Tell him that you'd rather stick with just one finger for a little while and definitely use some form of lubrication. Coconut oil works great as lube!

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Have Him Start Off Licking Your Butthole

mandakim said:

If you've never done anything sexually involving your butt, have this guy try licking your butthole first to ease you into something being inserted back there. I love when a guy licks my butt hole. Tongues are very soft so it's like a preparation for your butt hole before any fingers get inserted. I would also advice only using one finger, don't let him pressure you into him inserting two.

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Remember It's Not Like Porn

Artemis95 said:

A lot of men see porn and assume that anal fingering is really easy to do in real life. I'm telling you from experience it's not that easy. If you are interested in doing this, I would tell him to only use one finger for a while to let you get used to it, then maybe try two if you are comfortable. Two fingers might still be slightly painful, but it shouldn't be too bad. Men like it because it's a little kinky, but if you're not getting any real pleasure from it anal fingering after trying it a couple times, then don't do it just to please him.

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