Your sex life is personal, private, and no one else’s business, which means you can choose to have or not to have sex whenever you want. That said, there are some times you actually shouldn’t have sex because of health reasons. As I’ve said a million times before, the vagina is a super delicate part of your body that can easily be irritated or infected – especially when you’re having sex and exposing your down there area to someone else and their, uh, juices.
So, yeah, this list isn’t full of judgmental suggestions like, “Don’t have sex on the first date if you ever want him to be your boyfriend!” or “Don’t have sex on your period because ew, blood!” You can’t have sex during the below moments because you’ll hurt yourself, you’ll hurt your partner, or you’ll hurt both of you. You can’t just stick things down there whenever you want, guys! Want to keep your vagina super healthy and also keep yourself from doing something you’ll regret one day? Here are eight times you definitely shouldn’t have sex. I wish I could tell you to masturbate instead, but you should probably avoid all down there activity, to be honest. Sorry!
A Few Hours Before A Gyno AppointmentTry to abstain from having sex 24 hours before your gynecologist appointment, especially if you're getting a Pap smear. If you're just going in for a check-up, try to abstain a few hours before. Your gyno can tell if you just had sex, and they don't love poking around down there and being confronted with semen, so not doing it before you go is a courtesy. But it's not just about being polite. Having sex before a Pap smear might mess with the results. A gynecologist told Her Campus that "the friction, bumping around, and semen can potentially change the results of your pap." It's better to be safe than sorry! Source: iStock
After Being In The Pool or Hot Tub TogetherIt's not a great idea to have penetrative sex right after getting out of a pool or a hot tub, especially one that is highly chlorinated. Your down there area is sensitive, and chlorine is definitely not sensitive. All of that friction combined with leftover chlorine chemicals can bother your vag and lead to painful irritation or infection. Of course, this isn't the case for everyone, but it is true in many cases. All you have to do is wash up first - have him rinse off his junk and you can do the same, and you guys should be fine. Source: iStock
24 Hours After A Wax Down There - And A Few Hours BeforeJust like your gynecologist, your waxer can tell if you just had sex. As a courtesy, you should abstain a few hours before you head to your appointment. It also could be for your comfort - sex can leave you a little irritated and sore down there, and then going straight to getting hair ripped out of that area is going to be pretty painful. It's also important to stay away from sex for 24 hours after your Brazilian or bikini wax. The waxing makes the area super sensitive and sore, and it can take a while for that to go away. Added friction from sex can lead to irritation, a rash, or ingrown hairs. Source: iStock
While Being Treated For Any Infection Down ThereThis should be a no-brainer, but I know a lot of girls who have had sex with someone even when they're being treated for an infection down there, so I feel like it needs to be said anyway. If you get a urinary tract infection or yeast infection, you'll usually take prescription meds that you'll be on for about a week, sometimes longer. In that time period, you might find that your symptoms and irritation disappear a few days before you're done with the medicine - but this doesn't mean you can start having sex. Finish up your meds before you hook up with someone for your own good. You can get infected again, or you can pass on some icky bacteria. Just wait! Source: iStock
If Your Stomach Is Bothering YouThis should also be a no-brainer, but I've heard enough sex/throwing up stories to tell me it isn't. If your stomach is bothering you, don't have sex! Not only will all of that moving around bother your stomach even more, but penetration hits close to your rectum, which can really bother you and make things a lot worse. Source: iStock
When You Don't Have Any ProtectionAgain, this is a pretty obvious one, but it's worth repeating: if you have zero forms of protection, don't have sex. I know you guys are both really in the mood and you just spent a long time fooling around, and you're ready to go. But if there are no condoms, no pill, no IUDs, no anything... abstain. Or run out to the store and buy a condom. Pulling out isn't reliable for preventing pregnancy, and if STDs are a risk, it's not worth it. Source: iStock
If You Feel Like You Have To Because Of GuiltNo one should ever be having sex because they feel like they have to, or they feel guilty about something. This isn't a "health" issue, but it is a mental health issue! Only have sex if YOU want to, not because you feel like you owe him or her something. Source: iStock
If You're Itchy Down ThereIf you're feeling extra itchy down there, don't have sex with someone. I know you want to ignore it and act like it's nothing, but a lot of itchiness could mean an infection or some sort of irritation - and you should get that checked out before getting it in and potentially making everything worse. Source: iStock
What do you think about these times you shouldn’t have sex? What did I forget to add? Tell me in the comments!