Being clingy is the kiss of death in relationships, especially over text. Everyone wants to be with someone who is independent, secure, and confident in themselves. Over-texting gives the opposite impression. It’s basically you saying, “You’re the only important thing in my life, and I don’t know what I’d do without you!” Still, it’s so tempting to send needy texts.
I have to admit, I used to be one of those clingy girlfriends. I couldn’t help it! I didn’t have a ton of friends and always wanted to hang out with my boyfriend (to be fair, he was really cool). I took it personally if he ever wanted space or felt like doing things without me. Now that I’m more mature, I make sure to keep my personal life active even if I’m dating someone. It’s important to me to have my own stuff going on.
When I see my girlfriends acting clingy over text messages with a guy, I advise them otherwise. It’s always going to be a turnoff to the other person (unless they’re a doormat, in which case you don’t want to be with them anyways). My rule of thumb is, if you’re not sure if you should text it, don’t.
We asked some real guys what texts came off as too clingy, and here are their answers:
Have you ever dated anyone you thought was clingy over text? Let me know in the comments below!