8 Easy Tips To Be Better At Giving Blowjobs

To the uninitiated, there may be nothing more intimidating than the thought of giving a blowjob. I mean, even for someone who is very firmly and definitively entrenched and initiated into the world of BJs, they’re pretty scary–there’s something unnerving about looking down at a body part that you don’t happen to have and being like, Okay, now I just have to…put it in my mouth. And make something great happen with it, I guess? Plus, it’s one of those things that the more you talk about it with other people, the more confusing it seems to get–like, what kind of rhythm should you be using? What if they’re uncircumcised? And what the heck are you even supposed to do with the (cringe) balls?

Don’t worry, though. Breathe–it’s all going to be okay, because blowjobs don’t actually have to be *that* daunting because, basically, when it comes right down to it, a penis is a penis is a penis, after all. If you want to become better at giving blowjobs (or are just kind of curious about what it takes to be better at giving head), check out these easy tips:


Cover Your Teeth

If you were to ask most guys, the number one complaint they probably have when it comes to BJs is teeth--and, you know, it's not super hard to see why. Sharp teeth + highly sensitive sexual organ = massive discomfort. To make sure that you don't get too toothy, try to wrap your lips over your teeth. You can also use your tongue a lot by flattening it out over your bottom teeth. Finally, keep his penis in the middle of your mouth, away from your molars, and you should be good to go.

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Use Spit

It sounds gross, but spit works. You don't have to, like, hock a loogie or anything (in fact, you probably should not do that) but lubrication is very, very important when giving head, since friction doesn't feel too great on a dry surface. You definitely don't have to overthink this either. Definitely take a sip of water (or a few) before you go down and, throughout the ~journey~ make sure that you're breathing through your nose and swallowing every now and then. This will help you maintain the lubrication that will make things much better for your partner, not to mention easier on you.

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Move Your Head To A Rhythm

If you're scared about getting on a wonky beat, just think of a song and move your head to that. Really. "Staying Alive" by the Bee Gees is often cited as the best rhythm for giving oral and, while it's not the sexiest song out there, it really does work. Just try not to hyperfocus on the song--while it's effective for staying on beat, maybe don't hum disco while you're giving a blowjob. (Or do! Maybe you're into that kind of thing. I don't know.)

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Pretend It's Something Else

You might have heard about the ice cream trick, which is basically exactly what it sounds like--licking the side of a guy's penis like it's an ice cream cone that's melting. Guys like this a lot (it feels "unexpected" but couldn't be easier), plus, it gives your jaw a break.

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Take It Slow

Seriously, there's no need to rush. Don't whip your head up and down so fast that you get whiplash, and don't feel like you need to make him come immediately. Instead, try to enjoy it a little--and, signaling that you're enjoying yourself will also feel hot to your partner. Win-win! And if you need to take a break (no lockjaw, thanks), definitely do that--take a sip of water or just a breather whenever you want to. No one's expecting you to be an oral machine.

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Use Your Hands

Just because it's a *blow* job doesn't mean that your hands shouldn't be utilized--and, in fact, they absolutely should. You don't have to do anything fancy; just wrap your index finger and thumb around the width of the penis right below your mouth. This helps the area that you're able to cover, which is easier on your mouth.

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Talk To Your Partner

There is absolutely no need to treat a blowjob as a sort guessing game. Ask your partner what they like, don't like, want more of, etc. If you're worried that this is going make you seem inexperienced, don't. If anything, it'll make you seem MORE experienced and in control, since you're totally dictating the situation.

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Relax

Seriously. At the end of the day, you're giving a guy a blowjob and, no matter how bad you think it is, it's probably pretty great for him. He's lucky to have you go down on him, so don't freak out about your oral skills being good or bad. Trust me, you're doing just fine.

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What do you think about giving blowjobs? What tips would you give? Let us know in the comments!

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