I need some lube, but the problem is, I’m scared to buy it. I don’t know where to get it. I also cannot have my parents find out because I’m young. So I decided to try some stuff at home, I just don’t know what to use. Is it okay to use Vaseline as lube? I read online that that might work.
It’s great that you want to use lube! Unfortunately, not just anything can be substituted for actual vaginal lube, even if it seems like it might work. Your vaginal area is so sensitive, and there are so many ways to throw off your pH balance and cause some sort of infection or irritation. Even lube made for down there can sometimes bother you! It’s all about finding what works. So, is Vaseline something that might work? Let’s discuss.
To make sure I could give you the best possible answer, I got in touch with my friend Dr. Sherry Ross from the site HelloFlo (a monthly period care package you need to check out) to get a legit professional opinion. Dr. Ross said, “Not all lubes are created equal! A perfect lube should be slippery, safe for the tissue, long lasting, and should not increase your risk for any vaginal infections.
“Vaseline was not created to be used as a vaginal lubricant. It’s ideal for chapped lips and dry skin, but tends to be thick, sticky, and gummy as a vaginal lubricant.” So, no, Vaseline isn’t a great idea. It isn’t slipper enough, which means that it will just be very sticky. Sure, it might make things wet down there, but it will also make things very messy, and will be hard to get out. Plus, Dr. Ross points out that “using Vaseline can also increase the risk of a bacterial infection and break down latex condoms.” See that last part? If you do use Vaseline as lube with a partner, and he wears a condom, the Vaseline could ruin the condom, leaving you with the chance to get pregnant. If you masturbate with Vaseline, and you don’t clean it out enough and then you have sex with a partner, you still run this risk.
So what should you use if you can’t go to the store and buy it? Dr. Ross says, “Other options that have not been tested to be a vaginal lubricant include extra virgin coconut oil, sweet almond oil, and Vitamin E oil.” This basically means that these objects weren’t intended to be put down there, but people are known to use them. If you want to experiment, you can, but it’s honestly not the best idea. Even these oils can give you an infection.
Your best bet is buying legit lube. Dr Ross says that, “Ideally, water-based and silicone lubricants, such as Astroglide and K-Y Sensual Silk, are used for sexual intimacy and contact.” Try to buy something like that. You can buy lube in a store like Spencer’s, which should be in a mall near you. If it’s not, most drugstores like CVS, Walgreens, or Target will have it. It’s not hard to find! Lube is also typically inexpensive, so you don’t have to save a lot to get it. Just save some cash (honestly, probably less than $10), and buy it – then hide it safely in your room. Good luck!