9 Lies Porn Tells You That You Need To Stop Believing

This piece isn’t here to tell you whether or not porn is good or bad; that’s a conclusion you’re going to come to on your own. But whether you’re a regular incognito window porn watcher or you’re disgusted by the porn industry, we can all agree that porn has had a strong influence on sexual norms and expectations. I mean, statistics prove it. And let’s not kid ourselves here: Nobody started bleaching their butthole or getting labiaplasty just because it seemed like a fun idea; porn standards are making their way into our bedrooms, which is worthy of pause.

Porn is incredibly influential to what we perceive is the most appealing way to approach sex, even if we know that porn is largely fantasy. There’s nothing wrong with trying something out that you saw in a porno if you’re intrigued, but if you find yourself doing things in bed that seems forced just because you think your partner might get turned on by it, you might be able to blame porn subconscious influence. So, for your own good, be aware of these nine lies porn tells you that you need to stop believing, stat.


Making A Lot Of Sexy Eye Contact During A Blow Job Is A Must

I've tried this a few times because I thought it would be sexier (thanks, porn), but all it did was make my neck hurt and distract the hell out of me. Try it if you want, and you can even talk to your partner about whether or not they're into it, but if it feels like you're phoning it in, don't feel obligated to fall for the porn gaze. Seriously, bae probably isn't paying much attention to your googly eyes anyway.

Jawbreaker

Big Penis = Great Sex

I know, porn star peen is usually massive, and their partners seem to love it. But a big penis doesn't equal good sex, and a smaller penis doesn't equal bad sex. It's all about how it's used, dude.

My Mad Fat Diary

The More You Moan, The Hotter You Sound

Please...don't feel obligated to make moany noises just because you think that's what you're supposed to do. I mean, do it if you want to stress out over when you should interject with your next sensual whimper, but don't let porn convince you that a whole lot of moaning is the key to good sex. Folks in porn or acting!

When Harry Met Sally

All Guys Love Finishing On your Face, So Be Cool About It

Hey, if you enjoy having a guy ejaculate in your face, that's fine. You do you, boo. But I do think that so many pornos end in a facial--with the female subject smiling happily, always--that both parties that are copying this move might think that this is just, well, the way to finish having sex. Honestly, I'm more concerned with girls feeling pressured into thinking they have to enjoy it. You don't. Hell, if a guy's jizz ever got in my hair, let alone my face or my eye there would be hell to pay.

Wax Your Pubes And Butthole If You Want To Be Appealing

Wax away if you want, but please, don't feel like some sort of nasty slob if your vag doesn't look like a naked mole rat or if your butthole doesn't shine in hairless glory. This might be the standard in mainstream porn, I assure you that most partners you'll encounter (who aren't garbage) will not deny you sex unless you look like a barbie down south. Honestly, dudes care a lot less about that crap than you might think.

Pinterest

Lesbian Sex Works Like THIS

Just like straight porn, there isn't a right or wrong way to have girl on girl sex. You don't have to finger your partner with your alarmingly long acrylics and then move to sex toys and then scissor for a bit and then eat some booty, etc etc etc. You might not even be into penetration, maybe you prefer to give oral sex than receive, etc. Please, take your boundaries into consideration before getting into an uncomfortable situation.

Friday

You Need To Look Cute While You Have Sex

There's nothing wrong with prettying yourself up before you have sex, but it's okay to also have sex without a full face of makeup and your sexiest bra. You also don't have to try to contort your face or body in a way that you think your partner will find more appealing. Trust, they probably don't care about that, just like you wouldn't care about them looking a certain way before you rip their clothes off.

Misfits

Your Labia Looks Weird AF

EVERYBODY'S LABIA LOOKS DIFFERENT. SOME ARE BIGGER THAN OTHERS, AND YOURS MIGHT BE A LITTLE MORE FLAPPY THAN SOMEBODY ELSE'S, BUT DON'T JUDGE YOUR POOR OL' LABIA BY PORN STANDARDS.

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Porn Sex Is A Right Way To Have Sex

Just a reminder: Porn is fantasy, and while it might inspire you in the bedroom, it shouldn't determine the rules of the bedroom. There is no magic formula when it comes to sex, period, so don't be too hard on yourself if you don't think you can meet the standards of a porn star in bed. Honestly, your partner probably can't either. Just have fun together and stop trying to be something you're not.

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What other lies does porn tell us about sex IRL? Have you been positively inspired by porn? Tell us in the comments!

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