Why Did Your Vagina Get Very Swollen After Sex? Is That Normal?

Hi Heather,

I’m really freaked out. A few days ago, my boyfriend and I had sex without a condom. Afterwards, I felt like my vagina was pretty swollen, and when I looked down at it, I saw that it was VERY swollen. My right vaginal lip had swelled up, almost like a balloon, much bigger than the other side. It felt puffy and swollen, but not exactly painful, just uncomfortable. When I put underwear on, it felt like something was down there, but it was just the fact that my lip was so, so swollen. Although I’ve felt swollen down there after sex before, I’ve never experienced anything like that and it really scared me. It looked like my vagina was going inside out!

I don’t know why it happened. It was almost gone in the morning, although the area still felt a little tender. Is this normal or is there something wrong? We did change position a lot, but nothing was exceptionally rough. What should I do if it happens again?

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Vaginal swelling after sex is pretty normal, especially if you weren’t using a condom, but I can definitely see how it would be alarming if one side swells up to look quite large. Fortunately, this is pretty common and not an indication that something bigger is happening. Your down there area is so sensitive, and sometimes, the smallest thing can set it off. So, while it may be uncomfortable, it’s not exactly cause for concern.

Intense vaginal swelling that results in a ballon-like appearance is most often the result of rough sex or not using enough lubrication. Vaginal swelling can also happen when you’re really aroused, but in that case, it probably wouldn’t swell up in that way – although it certainly is possible. This is more likely from sexy time that was a little too rough, not using a condom and irritating your vag, or skimping on the lubrication. Let’s quickly go through each possibility.

Since a lack of lubrication is most likely the issue here, let’s start with that. A lot of friction down there can easily cause some pretty serious swelling. If you weren’t wet enough down there, you probably felt it, and maybe you ignored it. Don’t do that! Keep lube on handy – this reduces the friction and will prevent that kind of swelling. This lack of lubrication is especially common when changing position a lot. It’s easy for your vag to dry up or even for his penis to get a little softer, which tends to hurt a bit more.

This could also be the case of rough sex, although you said you guys weren’t doing anything too crazy. In general, rough sex can lead to a lot of friction, and you might ignore it because pain is part of the process. Again, make sure you’re using lube and please be careful.

Sometimes a condom allergy can also cause swelling like this, although that clearly wasn’t the issue here. In any case, please use a condom with a sexual partner – even if you have an alternate form of birth control, nothing else protects against STDs.

As for what to do once the swelling has already happened? First of all, relax. Freaking out and convincing yourself that something serious is wrong is only going to make things worse. Once you’re more calm, wrap some ice in a paper towel or grab an ice pack, and gently place it near the swollen area (over underwear or under it, just don’t put ice directly on the area without a paper towel or cloth). Like any other swollen body part, ice will help reduce the swelling by restricting blood flow. It will also make the area feel a little more comfortable. Put on loose sweatpants and consider going commando – anything tight will irritate things further. Then just take it easy until the swelling goes down, which could take a few hours.

If for some reason the swelling doesn’t go away after a full 24 hours or gets worse, call a doctor to get yourself checked out. But in most cases, it will go away on it’s own. And to prevent it in the future, remember: lube is your friend. Good luck!

take care,
Heather

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  • Mirabel Arteaga Gonzales

    My inner lips got swollen and my vagina too after i had sex with my husband, it almost look like a flower. we used condom at the beginning just for the lub. Was it an allergic reaction to the condom? Ive done this before and i never got a reaction till now, and yes i am kind of scared because this never happened before, it doesn’t burn or itches it just feels unconfortable and like something is there. Can anybody help

  • Selina

    It’s a yeast infection that hasn’t been treated and during sex it got aggravated. The rougher the sex the more it gets aggravated and the clitoris can swell up to an enormous size! It’s very uncomfortable yes and you should go to your doctor right away to get antifungal treatment. Don’t buy over the counter if it’s gotten this far, go see your doc!
    And don’t be scared, you don’t need surgery, it won’t stay like that. Ones your on meds, few days it will be back to normal. This happened to me 20 years ago. Talking out of experience. My ex thought it was because I was so aroused, and that it’s normal when you get an orgasm, he was an idiot! Lol.
    Not all yeast infections are itchy. Sometimes we don’t know, especially young people, sometimes ignore obvious symptoms like white discharge and slight discomfort.
    Always c a doctor, don’t self diagnose online. Thank u, peace out ?

  • Odette

    Starting off slowly seems to work for me. I have to be nice and warmed up and also use a water based lubricant as well. I’ve had guys who had no idea and just thought they could grab me as soon as they were hard and start pounding me into the next day and it was kind of sexy but at times I got very sore. My lovely man I’m with now completely understands and we have foreplay for a good 15 minutes. He’s quite large down there too and if we have sex with him behind he can’t fully enter me before I feel him hitting my cervix but we know what works and I rarely have any problems now.

  • Adam M

    Now I don’t want to alarm anyone unnecessarily but I read this last night when my lover had the exact same symptoms. We took the advice: coldpack, waiting the night. This morning it was a bit worse so today she’s getting emergency surgery.

    Hopefully it will be a simple case of just allowing the fluid to escape and no lasting damage but if you think there’s a lot of fluid in there don’t wait until it’s painful.

  • creativecubez

    Is this happening normal after masturbating?