Can You Have A Wet Dream If You Have A Vagina?

Learning about wet dreams during any puberty or sex ed class is always a highlight…next to boners, in my opinion. I mean, there were few things more satisfying than watching the boys in class squirm with discomfort as a teacher clinically discussed “nocturnal emissions” or describe the mess that a vaguely sexy dream could leave behind. I wondered how often this happened to my male friends, or if they experienced the utter mortification of their mom having to clean their crusty sheets. Yikes!

But wet dreams are still shrouded in a bit of mystery. What age does the wet dream plague finally end? Is it possible to have too many wet dreams? And, perhaps most curiously, can people with vaginas have wet dreams? Or is that only something that folks with penises deal with. Well, you’re about to find out. Here’s everything you need to know about wet dreams.

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What exactly is a wet dream?

A wet dream–or nocturnal emissions if you’re feeling fancy–is an involuntary orgasm that occurs when you’re sleeping. People usually associate wet dreams with penises, so to be more specific, it’s basically ejaculating while sleeping. Usually, the only of this happening is usually in the form of some messy PJs or sheets in the morning, but some manage to wake up immediately after.

What causes wet dreams?

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Usually a wet dream is the result of an erotic or sexually charged dream, but not always (fun fact: bodies are weird). Someone may or may not remember the dream that caused such a big mess, however. It all depends! When it comes to males, during puberty the body produces a ton of testosterone, which in turn produces sperm. During this glorious time (lol, not), unexpected erections can become the norm, and when they’re not popping up in the middle of math class or while watching a movie, they can occur when sleeping. So, basically, the body has all this pent up sperm that is really anxious and wants to get out of the body, so wet dreams are a way for that to happen.

Wait…Do you have to have a penis to have a wet dream? Can you have a vagina and have a wet dream?

Well here’s a fun fact you probably won’t focus on in school: If you’re reading this right now and have a vagina, congratulations, you too are capable of having wet dreams!

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But it gets a little more complicated when it comes to vaginas. See, when somebody with a vagina is aroused or has an orgasm, the vagina lubricates and becomes wet. The same thing happens when they have a wet dream, but vaginas are often wet for a variety of reasons that have nothing to do with getting turned on; run of the mill vaginal discharge doesn’t have anything to do with orgasms, for example. So you could potentially wake up and feel wet in the vag area without having had a wet dream at all.

So how would you know if you had a wet dream or not? Well, you might not, but back in ’50s, famous sex researcher Alfred Kinsey (ever heard of the Kinsey scale?) suggested that female wet dreams should be defined as arousal that “awakens one to perceive the experience of orgasm.” So basically, you would have to wake up during it and go, “Oh, I’m having an orgasm. Sweet.”

Now, contrast all of this to folks with penises who just get an erection and ejaculate, something that doesn’t happen unless they’re aroused. That’s a lot more straight forward.

Okay, so people with vaginas can have wet dreams, but is it rare?

That’s hard to gauge, because, as I said, it can be tricky to determine a wet dream when it comes (sorry) to vaginas. But our ol’ friend Kinsey indicated that 40 percent of the women he researched way back when experienced wet dreams. So if you think you’re having wet dreams, don’t worry, it’s not weird. At the very least, be thankful that you don’t have to deal with the clean up that folks with penises do,

Is there such a thing as having too many wet dreams? What if somebody doesn’t have wet dreams, like, ever?

Everyone is different. Some end up having a ton of wet dreams (especially people with penises), others go through puberty without one.

Is there a way to stop having wet dreams?

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The only way that someone can really reduce the amount of wet dreams they have is via regular masturbation sessions or having sex. That way, all that pent up sperm is actually going somewhere and isn’t being released without permission.

I’ve stumbled upon a ton of weird information directed at dudes that claim that not eating spicy food at night or using certain essential oils will prevent wet dreams. Take that advice with a huge grain of salt and take your wet dreams in stride. They’re just a part of growing up.

Is there an age that people stop having wet dreams?

Wet dreams are a common occurrence during puberty, but it often becomes a lot less common once adulthood hits. With that said, some people end up having wet dreams as adults, too, so–like everything else–it really depends.

Can somebody get pregnant if they’re sleeping in the same bed as somebody who had a wet dream?

Unless the person who has a wet dream turns over and inserts their penis into a vagina during or immediately following the act, no, it’s not possible. Being in the vicinity of semen doesn’t make somebody instapregnant. Semen has to find a way to, you know, get all up into the vagina.

What’s the best song about wet dreams?

Nothing beats the song “Liquid Dreams” by short lived boy band O-Town. Nothing is more mortifying than realizing you sang all the words to this song as a kid without really understanding what it was about

Are you surprised that people with vaginas can have wet dreams? Do you have any funny wet dream stories?  Tell us in the comments!

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