Having an obsessive personality has it’s own pitfalls and perks. It’s the only way my brain knows how to operate, and judging from spending more than ten minutes on Tumblr, that seems to be the case for a lot of you, too. It doesn’t matter if it’s books, shows, movies, a certain fandom, or even a crush… if you’re into something, you’re all in, head-over-heels, fully invested, and there’s no going back.
This can be a good thing! I love living life being wholly wrapped in something awesome. Feel free to judge, but I can’t relate to not being interested in something. But for those of us who know what it’s like to be obsessive, we know there’s a downside to it, too: the tunnel vision, the time-suck it takes to invest in something, and knowing what’s coming with the eventual heart break when you grow out of something (or your show gets canceled: sometimes you don’t have a choice. Will any of us be over Pushing Daisies?).
Of course, being overly obsessive and having obsessive behaviors could be a sign of ADHD, OCD, and having an addictive personality, rather than an obsessive one. By all means, I don’t mean to downplay those very real issues that people deal with – though, on some level, I’m sure you can also relate. Still, if your obsession or ritual behaviors are taking over your life, maybe see a professional about it.
That being said, if you are seldom “casually” into something and only know what it’s like to be completely obsessed with something, you may know what I’m talking about. Here are 15 things you’ll only get if you have an obsessive personality.
1) Your life neatly sections out into periods known as “That time I was really into [that thing]” and “That time I was really into [that other thing]”.
What are years? Or grades? Or places you’ve lived? There’s Harry Potter, followed by John Green novels, then that stint where you retreated into a cave and watched all of Supernatural back to back.
2) Being obsessed with everything has given you have the best memory of all time.
And low key made you the MVP of every trivia team you’ve ever been on.
3) When people ask if you have hobbies, you’re like: “…I know a lot about a lot, so you’re going to have to be more specific.”
Pro-tip: get some leave-your-house hobbies. They’ll be vital for your sanity and for conversation starters if you’re all about that #introvertlife
4) You’re either super invested or super out of it.
There is no in between. You’re passionate about what you care about the most – that can be a good thing.
5) You know that some obsessions and loves are greater than others.
You have favorites, even though it feels wrong. SNL will always hold a bigger spot in my heart than Doctor Who and that’s just the way the cookie crumbles.
6) Your bookshelf is a graveyard of stuff you used to be in to.
The same thing goes for your iTunes account and Netflix queue. You can’t delete your old friends. Why would you?
7) You feel a big sense of accomplishment about knowing the most about your obsession.
You’re basically an expert. If anyone wanted to do a panel about THAT THING, they should call you, because of course they should.
8) For every piece of advice that’s like: “You have to find the thing you love and follow it. Never let it go,” you’re basically like: “Yeah, did that. And?”
If you were a house on Game of Thrones, that’d be your house motto. A Lannister always pays his debts and you’re always loving-up on something.
9) You get laser focused with your goals.
So about that time being obsessive made you more successful? How it made you doggedly ambitious, unafraid of success, and chasing your goals? Cool.
10) It can feel like other thoughts are sometimes colored by your obsessive thought.
You can relate everything back to your obsession because it’s everywhere, right? You’re not just seeing things with your obsessive lens?
11) It’s astounding to you that others aren’t so gobsmacked by the awesomeness of your obsession.
HOW CAN YOU BE SO BLIND?!
12) Until one day you wonder, “When did I care about this?”
You’re burnt out and sick of that thing you used to love and you have no idea what’s happening. It’s confusing and sad and you don’t know what to do.
13) You get offended when someone thinks you’re into something you’re not.
It feels like that time your parents thought you were still into the stuff you loved when you were in kindergarten, then brought it up in front of your friends once you got to high school. Ugh. How dare you malign me by assuming I’m a Belieber?
14) Some obsessions you straight up pretend never happened.
It’s super embarrassing and you don’t talk about that one time you got really into that one musical and wouldn’t stop listening to the soundtrack no matter how much it annoyed your friends and family. No one talks about it. It never existed. Time is a blank and you are absolved.
15) You’re risk averse to starting a series your friends say you’ll like because you know better than to tempt fate.
Another gateway into submerging the next one to five months of your life tbh.
Do you have an obsessive personality? What can you relate to the most? What did we forget to include? Let me know in the comments.
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