It’s easy to assume that opening up to your significant other will get easier with time. And if you think about it, it makes perfect sense. Because the more you get to know your partner, the more comfortable they become around you. And the more comfortable they are around you, the more they share. Pretty simple, right?
But the fact of the matter is, being open with your significant other is not that simple. And this might come as a surprise, but it can also be tricky for couples who know each other really well. So if you’re in this position and you feel like your partner just won’t open up to you, know that you’re not alone and that it’s probably not your fault. It’s important to remember that opening up emotionally is a pretty huge step, and there are (usually) rational explanations for why a person might be struggling with it. So for example, they may have been through a lot in past relationships, which caused them to build a wall and guard themselves. They probably need more time to figure out if they can trust you, or maybe they just don’t feel close enough to you yet.
But on the bright side, there are ways to make them feel like they can trust you enough to be open and vulnerable. Thanks to the feedback on our boards, I saw a lot of helpful advice, from how to get your boyfriend to open up to you to how to deal with a guy who’s being too shy.
Check out these seven pieces of advice on how to get your significant other to be more open with you.
Wolf-Fire said:Just start interacting with him a lot is all. And try to lead the conversation a bit with him. The more you do, the more comfortable he will become with you, and eventually open up. Image source: iStock
PaintedWings said:Just make small talk. Ask him about homework, or tell him you like his shirt or something. You have to start small, especially when the person is shy. Eventually, you'll both be more comfortable and getting to know each other better will come more naturally. Image source: iStock
Little_Miss said:Don't say "you're hard to read" or anything like that! Be soft and gentle, since he is a shy guy. You don't want to come off too strong and make him even more shy, or make him pull himself away. I would ask in person or call, but if he's really shy, maybe texting could work. You'll know what's right. Image source: iStock
Mandakim said:I guess he might be REALLY shy and introverted, or he just doesn't want to say too much about himself or his family. Try asking him why he's so quiet and doesn't want to talk about himself. Image source: iStock
Danie-0x said:Maybe he's just not confident when it comes to girls. Maybe he’s just shy around you but through text he can be himself. Make it clear that you’re confused about what’s happening between you two, and that way he might tell you how he's feeling and you know what’s going on inside his head. Image source: iStock
Taebadass said:Maybe he is shy and he isn’t that comfortable with his friends, but if he chats away with you that means he’s comfortable around you. When a shy guy is comfortable around a girl, it’s a very good thing, it could mean that he likes you or as a sister, it all depends on how shy he is. When a guy is really really shy, the dude will barely talk to the girl he likes because he's shy and really nervous. Image source: iStock
VermillionRoses said:I think you should talk to him more and invite him to more things. That would be really sweet. Image source: iStock
Did you find any of these tips helpful? What other pieces of advice would you add to the list? Tell us in the comments below!