When thinking about New Year’s resolutions, we often think about the things we can do to better ourselves. There’s definitely nothing wrong with that, but for those of us who are coupled up, it’s smart to think about the things that can also better your relationship. If you’re seriously committed to a significant other, your life no longer only revolves around you, so it just makes sense for some of your New Year’s resolutions to reflect that change as well.
You can make these relationship resolutions on your own, but I strongly suggest talking to your significant other about them. After all, these directly involve the other person, so they should know what’s going on! Plus, discussing resolutions and goals for the new year together is kind of a nice bonding experience, and can really show you where your S.O. is at in terms of your future together. So, instead of just focusing on you this year (although please, please do that too), focus on bettering your relationship also. Here are 10 New Year’s resolutions all couples should make for 2016:
Do One Fun Thing Together Every MonthIf you've been dating the same person for a while, you guys have probably settled into a routine. My boyfriend and I have been together for five years, and we definitely have a little routine going: we hang out on specific days, we watch a certain TV show on the weekdays, and on weekends we do errands together, hang out with the same friends, and go to the movies. It's nice and it's fun, but it also gets boring. The same can be said for any other long-term couple. Things just get a little boring sometimes! This year, make a resolution to do one fun, new, exciting thing together every month. This gives you plenty of time to plan, it will fit in your schedule, and it's not overwhelming. The fun thing can be anything, as long as it's something you don't always do. Maybe it's going to the go kart place, or maybe it's planning a weekend trip. It can be big or small, but it has to be something! Source: iStock
Make A New Couple FriendCouple friends are great. They also don't come around very often, because it's tough to get four people together who ALL like each other. Either your BF doesn't like the guy, or you hate the girl... it's a struggle. But it's so fun to have a couple you guys can both hang out with. It makes date night a little more interesting, and it allows you to make mutual friends, which is pretty important for a relationship. This year, try to find couple friends. Source: iStock
Compliment Each Other More OftenThe beginning of a relationship is full of lovey-dovey moments and lots of sickeningly sweet compliments. Once you've been dating for a while, though, compliments don't happen quite as often. It's not because you guys don't feel those things, it's just because you get used to each other. Make it a goal this year to compliment each other more often. It will make you both feel awesome. Source: iStock
Learn New Things TogetherOkay, in 2016, make it a rule that you and your S.O. have to learn AT LEAST one new thing together. This can be anything. Maybe it's surfing or skiing or snowboarding. Maybe it's running or going to the gym every day. Maybe it's cooking or baking or sewing or crafting. It can be anything! It just has to be something new neither of you have done before AND something you're both interested in. Learning a new hobby together will be such a great bonding experience - and it makes both of you better! Source: iStock
Binge-Watch New ShowsBinge-watching TV sounds like a really lame resolution, but it can actually be a nice thing for a couple to do together. Pick new and different shows that you've never watched to watch together this year. Some of them can be some of the awesome documentaries you can find on Netflix so that you're also both learning while watching. Source: iStock
Communicate Honestly More OftenCommunication is obviously an incredibly important part of a relationship. Make an effort to spend 2016 communicating more honestly to each other. When your BF does something that annoys you, don't vent to your best friend - tell him it's bugging you. If you want him to change something, ask. You guys should both focus on being more honest with each other. Source: iStock
Compromise About Something That's Been Bothering YouIf you guys have been arguing about something for a while, make 2016 the year you solve the problem. It doesn't need to be YOU compromising - maybe it needs to be your significant other. Either way, talk about it and try to fix it. Source: iStock
Help Each Other Get Over Bad HabitsRelationships aren't just about the good stuff. If you or your S.O. needs to get rid of a bad habit, try it this year, and make a promise that you'll support each other. Let your S.O. pick what they want to change, then help them through it as much as possible. It's nice to have someone by your side when trying to better yourself. Source: iStock
Forgive Each Other For Past MistakesForgiveness is so important. Maybe your partner did something months ago that you said was fine, but secretly, you're still mad about it. Can 2016 be the year you forget about that? If you can't, you may need to think about other options. If you can, then just forgive them. It's done. Make it go away. Holding onto stuff like this isn't good for you. Source: iStock
If It Doesn't Feel Right, End ItSorry to end this off on a bad note, but really: if the relationship doesn't seem to be working, there's no better time to end it than the beginning of a new year. You have a fresh start to focus on yourself, and if you've been feeling like you want to end things, you should just rip the band-aid off and do it. Source: iStock
Which of these relationship resolutions are you going to try? What else should have been included? Let me know in the comments.