7 Pieces Of Advice On What To Do If You Feel Like The Side Chick

Being the side chick in a relationship is the absolute worst. And that’s putting it lightly.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where too many people have grown comfortable with the idea of having a side chick or side guy. A lot of them tend to rationalize this by arguing that these side pieces can give them what the main course fails to deliver. But in my opinion, that is absolute bullshit.

No one should have to be in a position where they’re always in second place. Every single person deserves someone who will make them a priority and stay committed to them. However, the reason why we still see so many cases where girls (and guys) are being sidelined is because they actually allow it to happen. And furthermore, it seems like most people choose to go through this because they hope that they’ll eventually take first place. But unfortunately, that’s not guaranteed. Chances are, the person you’re with will continue to play you like a bunch of worn-out strings.

I found two really interesting discussions that relate to this topic on our boards this week. One girl asked for advice on how to deal when her boyfriend doesn’t make her a priority, and another reader wanted to know if she was actually a side chick. See what you guys had to say about what to do if you feel like you’re the side chick in a relationship.


JoEliza_Mew said:

I know exactly how this feels, it sucks. You feel alone and you’re desperate to hang onto him because you love him. Sometimes you have to let go and I know it’s easier said than done but maybe if you decide to leave and he notices what he’s going to lose, he will straighten up. It won’t always work but sometimes a little push is all they need. I’m so sorry you're going through this.

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AleshaG said:

If he's not even trying to listen to you when you try to confront him, then that's a sign. Let's be real: The only thing he wants is sex. And that's not good for you, or the relationship. You don't need him or a boyfriend for that matter. Dump him.

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Mandakim said:

The newness might be wearing off in your relationship. But if I were you, I'd be having a looong and serious talk with him.

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Alegnatm said:

Don't be that girl that knowingly messes around with a guy in a relationship. I would even say that you should stop talking to him all together, why give him an opportunity to flirt with you at all. Just wait for a single guy, it's way less complicated.

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Zeleve said:

That’s not a good position to be in. If I were you, I'd find someone else. You're messing with a guy who's already in another relationship, and that's not okay.

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Zaay-ellee said:

DROP HIM. He is untrustworthy and manipualtive. There are little signs that you should be taking note of, like his "girlfriend" back home, or if he only texts you when he wants to hook up. It isn't healthy and isn't fair, so let him go.

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Flamingoccm said:

Why is there any question as to whether or not you're his side girl? If you know he has a girlfriend and he's only using you for sex, respect yourself enough to walk away.

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Have you ever been treated like the side chick in a relationship? If so, how did you deal with it? Do you have any advice to add? Tell us in the comments below!

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