First dates can be so awkward. They’re usually filled with nervous giggles, weird silences, and embarrassing moments, because so much pressure is put on both people to make a good impression. And even if the date seems to be going really well, a small part of you might still get a little paranoid and think that you’ll end up ruining it somehow.
It’s a struggle we all know too well. And unfortunately, a lot of us aren’t even aware of how some of the smallest things we do can completely ruin a date. But don’t worry! You are not alone. It turns out that a lot of people don’t really know about the less obvious habits that can sabotage a perfect date. Like the fact that carrying flowers can look pretty creepy, or that asking too many questions can make the date feel more like an interview.
So if you want to make your first date go as smoothly as possible, you have to check out these 10 unwritten rules to follow before you go on your first date:
1. Don’t avoid having meaningful conversations.
I know that first dates are meant to be pleasant, because after all, you want the mood to stay positive. But this doesn’t mean that you have to pass up on having meaningful conversations. These type of convos might make you feel vulnerable, but they’ll also help you guys make more of a connection. Few people think of a great first date as one where you only talk about school and the weather, you know?
2. Don’t order food with a lot of garlic or onions in it.
Even if you see something really good on the menu that includes a lot of garlic or onions, trust me, you don’t want to order it. Because if you two try to kiss later, you’re going to regret it. All the gum in the world won’t save you.
3. Set up a system with a friend before you go.
Pick a friend to text if you need an out. Come up with a quick and easy way to communicate if things get weird and you want to leave ASAP. For example, if I wanted to leave a date, I would text a friend “Hey how’s the party” and she knew that meant, “Get me out of here,” so she would call me telling me she “needed” a ride.
4. Avoid overly romantic movies.
If you’re on a movie date, go for a film that’s adventurous and fun. It’s too uncomfortable to sit through steamy sex scenes and corny “I love you” moments when you’re on a first date.
5. Don’t share your opinions as facts.
If you’re sharing your views about something or if you disagree with your date, make it clear that what you’re saying is just your opinion. So instead of saying something like: “John Green is the best writer ever, all the others suck,” you should say something like: “I think John Green is a really good writer, I find his books really inspiring.” That way, you won’t come off as someone who thinks that their opinion is more important than everyone else’s.
6. Avoid complicated outfits that make you feel uncomfortable.
You might be tempted to impress your date by going all out with high heels and a super tight dress. But it’s best to wear something that you’ll feel comfortable in. This way, you’re less likely to experience embarrassing wardrobe malfunctions.
7. Don’t mention your ex at all.
Keep in mind that this a date, not a pity party. So don’t use it as an opportunity bring up past relationships or vent about your worst exes. Because that’s just not a good look.
8. Remember that kissing is not required.
Even if your date paid for everything, it doesn’t mean you owe them anything sexual. So don’t feel pressured to kiss them if you don’t feel ready.
9. Text your date to let them know you had a good time.
Everyone knows that if you didn’t have fun, you don’t get in touch, but if you did, you’ll get a text. Giving them a phone call will make you seem a little clingy and overbearring, but a quick “Hey I had fun tonight!” text is the way to go.
10. Realize you’re both playing a game.
No matter how much we tell you dating games suck, everyone plays them, especially on a first date. Keep it in mind!
Which of these rules about first dates surprised you the most? Do you have any others to add? Tell us in the comments below!