It’s safe to say that cheating has become a relative term. While one girl might see flirting with other people as cheating, another girl might see flirting as completely harmless, because they know that some people are just flirty by nature. And while one person might consider any kind of physical contact cheating, someone else might think it only counts if it’s sex. But when two people in a relationship can’t seem to agree on what they define as cheating, then it becomes a pretty big problem.
I’ve noticed that a lot of people are quick to assume that dealing with a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend will never happen to them. But the reality is, this can happen to anyone, regardless of how solid your relationship may seem. And this is especially true if you and your partner aren’t on the same page when it comes to what counts as cheating.
So this week, I decided to look through a few forum discussions that focused mainly on what actually counts as cheating. This one post discussed whether or not cyber sex is considered cheating. Another dealt with mind cheating, and a third talked about dealing with a boyfriend who slept with another girl, but didn’t have sex with her. All of these were really interesting stories, but some of you guys gave awesome responses.
Check out what seven of our readers had to say about what really counts as cheating in a relationship.
When You Take Mind-Cheating Too FarNymphet said: "No matter who I’m dating, I will still shamelessly think about having sex with Ryan Gosling. I do this thing when I’m bored in class where I think about what it would be like to bone every guy in the glass and every now and then it might make me horny, but it doesn’t mean anything because I’m not going to have sex with any of them. It becomes a problem when you take action on the fantasies that you’ve conjured up in your mind." Image source: iStock
Cuddling With SomeoneOmgItsRira said: "Friends can cuddle, sure. But honestly it's a thin line that can easily be crossed if even so much as heavy petting occurs." Image source: iStock
Literally Going Out With Someone You’re Sexually Attracted ToFlamingoccm said: "If they're sexually attracted to this person, would like to have sex with them, and is going on a date with them...all while they have a boyfriend, they're being unfaithful. There's no question about it. That's literally the definition of cheating." Image source: iStock
Participating In Cyber SexFlamingoccm said: "You're engaging in simulated sex with another person. I don't see why that would be any less a violation of trust in your relationship than sending nude pictures or "sexting" someone other than your boyfriend. You're stepping out on your relationship. Although, I don't think that cheating is only physically touching someone else. If it's something you wouldn't want to tell your boyfriend about, you shouldn't be doing it." Image source: iStock
Letting A Friend Go Down On YouLeaandlilly said: "Yes, this is cheating! They’re doing sexual stuff with someone else when you and them are exclusive. They’re still cheating, even if it's with a guy. Find someone who wouldn't do that to you in the first place." Image source: iStock
Sleeping With Other People Without Having SexElizabethIrene said: "There is no "type" of cheating. Cheating is just cheating. He claimed he woke up with her laying next to him because he blacked out. He had to have remembered something because the girl (which he probably should not have been as close as he was that night) was with him. He remembers that...why not anything else. I know this from experience." Image source: iStock
Flirting With Someone OnlineMegstar said: "My boyfriend was talking with someone online and I found out and I was absolutely distraught. It IS cheating. If you feel nothing for the person you're dating, then leave them." Image source: iStock
Which of these comments shocked you the most? Do you agree that all of these things actually count as cheating? Tell us in the comments below!