7 Pieces Of Advice On How To Turn Your Partner On With A Sexy Lap Dance

Performing a lap dance or strip tease for your partner sounds kind of intimidating. I mean, professional strippers make it look so easy, but when you really think about it, turning your partner on and keeping them entertained takes a lot of work. On top of getting them excited, you have to establish some ground rules and keep up a sexy routine that will make them hungry for more. And you have to dance. If you’re already an awkward dancer, doing it one-on-one makes things even scarier.


Lap dancing can be hard for first timers, but the good news is that with practice, anyone can master it. On the boards this week, I came across these really interesting discussions about how to do a lap dance for your boyfriend and how to turn your partner on. The responses were pretty great, but the main thing I got out of them was this: And as long as you’re comfortable in your own skin and you have confidence, your sexy strip tease will definitely get your partner in the mood, regardless of body shape, body size, or your ability to dance like a professional stripper.

Check out these seven pieces of advice on how to turn your partner on with a sexy lap dance:

BrokenConfidence said:

Start by sitting them on a chair on edge of the bed. Stand a few feet away from them. Start slowly undressing and teasing them with your clothing by throwing it gently on them, wrapping it round their neck and pulling them towards you.

Slowly grind their leg. Sexually tease by separating their legs and going between them and touching their chest, removing their clothing in the process. Once you get them partly naked, mount them. Just rubbing, touching, also taking their hands and making them touch you.

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Frankie said:

At no point during your entire performance is your partner allowed to touch you. You can touch, lick, rub and caress them all you want, but play it cool. A slow seduction is a sure recipe for lap dancing success.

The whole point of a lap dance is to drive a man crazy with anticipation and desire. You are in charge. Take your time, take control, and take pleasure in teasing him. If he reaches out in your direction or starts to grind back, slap his wrist and let him know that if he does it again, the dance is over, no exceptions.

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Stayclassy said:

To tease my boyfriend once, I took my pants off and just danced with my ass on his lap up to his face and that’s all it took for sex to start. Gotta find a real good song first, I suppose. And moving slowly is key.

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Redvelvetcakes said:

You want music, because you will be dancing. Wear stuff that's easy to pull off and will look sexy, not awkward. Also, you can look on YouTube for sexy dancing and lap dancing to see what you find.

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Frankie said:

Choose clothing that accentuates your most beautiful body parts. This is one time that it"s appropriate to show a lot of skin. And whatever you wear, make sure it can be removed easily. Make sure that your panties frame your cheeks and show off your shape. And another tip: it can be super sexy to keep your stockings and garter belt on for a while after your dance.

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BriannaBear said:

You can do it on the bed, and you should probably start wearing clothes that are easy to take off. Just take them off slowly as you go along. Maybe tease him a little during it.

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Antii_emo said:

I’m pretty sure you can YouTube it. YouTube has some crazy stuff. Find some sexy lingerie and go for it. And if you aren’t comfortable doing a full out lap dance to a whole song, you can just start getting intimate with your bf and start making out. He'll get too distracted and won’t even realize you’ve cut your show short.

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Have you ever tried to do a lap dance for your partner? What advice do you have for others who want to try it? Tell us in the comments below!

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