Confrontation is the worst. Feeling angry about something, venting to friends, and ranting about all the things you’re going to say to the person you’re mad at is one thing – actually standing in front of them, opening your mouth, and saying those things is another. A lot of people find it difficult to gather the courage to tell someone when they’re mad at them, and so the feelings simmer inside until they go into hiding for a little bit. It’s not healthy to hold back, but many of us do it – not just girls, but guys too.
How many times have you wondered if your boyfriend is mad at you even when he insists everything is fine? I’m not into gender stereotypes, but the one about how guys hate discussing their feelings came from a place of truth. Many dudes are hesitant to tell their girlfriends when they’re mad, hurt, or upset because they don’t want to get into an emotional fight or conversation. Many immature guys will hold back, act passive-aggressive, and either wait until they feel better to act normal again, or simply avoid the situation until it goes away.
It’s incredibly frustrating to feel the vibe that someone is mad at you while they continue to say they aren’t, especially when it’s someone you’re close to. You want them to be able to talk to you about these things, and it kind of hurts when they refuse to. The other thing that sucks about it is that you start to wonder if you’re going crazy. Are you imagining things, or does he ACTUALLY seem mad? Here are eight signs that your boyfriend is mad at you, even when he says he isn’t:
When You Ask He Says, 'I Don't Want To Talk About It'If you think your BF is mad at you, the first thing you should do is ask him if he is - even if he decides not to be honest, his response will probably still be telling. If a guy says, "I don't want to talk about it," that means that something is bugging him, but - you guessed it - he doesn't want to talk about it. This answer is frustrating, and can make you say things like, "What? What does that mean? Why can't you tell me? Let's talk about it." I totally get that. The thing is, sometimes people need time to process their anger and work through it on their own before they feel ready to discuss it with their partner. It's annoying, but give him time. He should eventually talk about it. If he refuses to never discuss it, that's an issue. Source: iStock
He Gives You One-Word AnswersIf your boyfriend normally texts you all the time and he's suddenly only giving vague, short, one-word responses, that could mean he's ticked off. Pay attention to the way he's talking to you through texting, on the phone, and in person. If he's angry, he'll be short with you, and he might seem distant. Source: iStock
He'll Hang Out With You, But Ignores You The Whole TimeWhen we first started dating, my boyfriend used to do this horribly annoying thing when he was mad at me. He would ask me to come over, and then not really pay attention to me the entire time. It was clear that he was angry about something, but he didn't want to say it. This happens often. Usually it happens because the guy thinks he can get over it, but then he realizes he's still mad and he doesn't know how to deal with the feelings. Source: iStock
He Gets Annoyed Over Little Things That Don't MatterMaybe he's angry about something big or a giant fight you guys had, but he won't say it. You can sense that something's off, but he refuses to talk about it. Then suddenly, something small happens (like you saying the wrong word), and he blows up. He's not actually mad about that little, insignificant thing that just happened - he was already mad, and that little thing just tipped him over the edge. Source: iStock
He Does Something He Knows You Don't LikeMaybe you've spent the last few days feeling like your BF is mad at you even though he won't say it - and then you catch him doing something he knows will make you angry, like flirting with an ex or watching that show you hate or texting the whole time you're over. This is called passive aggressive behavior. He's doing things to piss you off to either get some sort of weird revenge, or to make you angry enough to start fighting with him so he can fight back (without making the first move). Source: iStock
He Blows You Off When You Try To Hang OutTwo things could happen when a guy is mad at you: either he still hangs out with you but acts weird, or he blows you off completely. If he is suddenly "too busy" to make plans and cancels on everything, take that as a big warning sign. Source: iStock
His Body Language Is OffBody language reveals a lot about how a person is feeling. If your boyfriend is usually cuddly, hugging and kissing you, and he's suddenly barely even looking at you, that means he's probably pretty angry. Source: iStock
He's Generally Avoiding YouMaybe he's barely responding to your texts and sending your calls to voicemail. Maybe he cancelled on old plans with a vague reason. Maybe you see him in public and he pretends not to see you. Maybe you're both at the same party, but he stays by his friends the whole time. The point is, if he seems like he's avoiding you, there's probably a reason. Source: iStock
Do you disagree with any of these signs? Did I forget something? Let me know in the comments!