The 9 Secrets To Being Body Positive No One Ever Tells You

Being a girl is confusing and hard (sometimes). Not only do we have to deal with the pressure to be a certain size, dress a certain way, and behave a certain way, we also have to deal with pressure to be confident and exude self-love no matter what. Don’t those two things feel contradictory? Why is society telling me to strive my hardest to to have a bikini-bod – whatever that means – while simultaneously encouraging me to love my curves?

Body negative thought patterns can start when you’re super young, and as girls we’re taught and encouraged to nit-pick our bodies. Our bodies are to be seen as projects we’re always improving, which can turn into really unhealthy behaviors and internalized false beliefs about our self worth.It’s hard to undo the damage wherein we tie up our worth and potential for success in the same bundle as our body image. Even worse, the damage from thinking, “My body needs to be [fill in the blank] or I won’t find love and I’ll be worthless.” These demons are real and they can steal years of happiness, money, and health from you.

I struggled with these demons, personally, for many years and have finally landed in a state of confidence I’m most happy with. But do you want to know the secret about being confident and body positive I wish someone told me from the very beginning? Being perfectly body-positive is almost as impossible as having a perfect bikini-body. What does that mean? It’s a process, it takes time, and you’re never going to feel like you truly arrived at some magical state of perfection. What’s more, I’m not here to tell you that *~eVeRy OnE iS bEaUtIfUl~* in their own way because that’s trite and patronizing and to be honest, I think we’re all tired of hearing it. At a fundamental base level, here are 9 secrets about being body positive no one is telling you.

Which of these body positive secrets was your favorite? How do you feel better about yourself? Tell me in the comments!

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