Ask A Guy: What Guys Really Think About Girls Who Watch Porn

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Hey Joel,

Do guys think it’s weird when girls watch porn?

For better or for worse, porn is easier to access than ever before, and chances are, anyone who says they don’t watch porn is lying. That’s not to say all people watch porn constantly, but we all check out some steamy stuff from time to time. Due to this, the stigma behind watching porn, particularly for women, has started to fade, though not completely.

The fact is, watching porn isn’t weird–unless you’re watching some really kinky stuff. And I mean REALLY kinky. That’s not saying you’re a freak if you watch extreme BDSM porn or have a healthy fetish for feet, but there is a difference between telling people you watch porn and asking them to check out the midget gangbang you love so much.

As with so many things in a relationship, it’s often about letting things out slowly, and easing your partner into something about yourself. If you tell them on the first date that you really like watching porn where they choke each other, you might not get a call back. But if over time, you slowly build to that, chances are it won’t be a big deal.

But even with all that truth, there is still a small double standard in which guys will watch tons of porn, but make you feel weird for watching the exact same thing. If you are with a guy who gives off that feeling, try watching porn together, as it can be a big-time turn on for both of you!

The bottom line is, EVERYBODY watches porn, so for any guy to think you’re weird for watching it is their problem–not yours!

Best wishes,

Joel

Joel Freimark has done a lot in life and seen even more. From last minute international travel to bizarre places to writing award winning books, he’s here to bring his wisdom to all your problems. He hosts a weekly advice series on Youtube and a music series also on YouTube. No question is too outrageous or personal, so go ahead and fire away! Follow him on Twitter.

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  • Jessica

    Porn isn’t always wrong but you make it sound like no fetish is fucked up. I think porn has desensitized people. If you like watching rape porn or porn with women it pig tales and child like clothes you are a fucked up person plain and simple.

  • Raven Misfortune

    I mean, it is bad when it’s highly addictive and can lead to erectile dysfunction and failed relationships considering people becoming dependent on it instead of their significant other… but okay? Or, you know, the fact that it changes people’s sex lives and what they expect to happen due to many studies… and yes, that is cited info. Do some research. People think it’s so normal to watch people having sex on screen when in reality, most of those pornstars are forced into shit they don’t want to do (you know, hitting/spitting/name calling/unwanted anal) and get into drugs and alcohol to deal with the pain and depression. But it’s fine. Think whatever you want so you can remain “guilt free”. It’s extremely biased and misinformed to act like porn is 100% okay and not talk about side effects. Doesn’t matter what “type” it is, It’s still paid viewable prostitution. Next time, instead of making something so one sided and only talking about ups from it, make it less biased and more truthful. I have seen NUMEROUS relationships and marriages fail due to men and women hiding porn and porn addiction and people not being about to have sex since porn use. Plain and simple. If you’re going to put out info, do it honestly and know what you’re talking about. Not everyone gets addicted but it happens and ruins lives… along with the porn stars, and innocent people would lose their lovers to fake “love” on a computer screen. And if you think “EVERYBODY” watches porn, it furthers my point on about ignorant this is. You are an idiot. Wow.

    The only thing this site contributes to is a bunch of sex talk, feminism, and biased articles. It’s went way down hill from 4 or 5 years ago. Yuck. The articles on here are laughable at best.