I’m 14-years-old. I’ve never had sex or done anything with a guy. I used to get my period, but I haven’t had it since May 2015. I’m very paranoid because I Googled what happens if you miss a few periods, and everything says you’re probably pregnant, but I can’t be pregnant! I have recently lost weight and I’m more active and I eat a lot healthier. Please help, I’m very, very, very worried and stressed. I’m so scared. COULD I be pregnant? Help!
Here’s the good news: if you’ve never had sex or done anything with a guy, you physically can’t be pregnant. I mean, unless you’re the second coming of the Virgin Mary or you went to a gynecologist who also happened to be your crush’s sister and she accidentally artificially inseminated you with the sperm of your crush (Jane The Virgin, anyone?). But if you’re just a normal 14-year-old virgin, you are certainly not pregnant.
Here’s the bad news: it’s not always a great sign that your period has halted out of nowhere. Don’t freak out, though! I decided to get you the most legit answer I could by talking to my friend Dr. Sherry Ross from the site HelloFlo (a monthly period care package you need to check out).
Since you’re 14-years-old, Dr. Ross and I are assuming you probably got your first period fairly recently. If that’s the case, Dr. Ross says, “It is not unusual to have irregular periods when you first start getting your period. You would think that once this rite of passage into ‘teenhood’ starts, it should come on time every month, right? In a perfect world, periods would be reliable and would show up every 28 days, last two to three days, and be without cramps or bloating, but… this may not be your story.”
Dr. Ross continues: “A menstrual period or cycle is counted from the first day of bleeding in one month to the first day of bleeding in the next month, or whenever you get your next period. Irregular periods can be the norm for many, and sometimes they can last for a couple of years after your menstrual cycle beings. It may take a few years for your period to become regular. This can make things confusing and scary, especially when your periods are coming every three to six months or even just once a year.”
A side note: irregular periods can also be caused by weight change and excessive exercising. So if you’ve recently lost a lot of weight and you’ve started to exercise a lot, that could definitely be contributing to the missing periods. I’m not saying you have an eating disorder at all, but I want to point out that girls with anorexia or bulimia often stop getting their periods because of malnutrition or too much exercise. These changes could be affecting your period, and your body might need time to adjust.
So, should you stop worrying and forget about it? Not so fast. Dr. Ross says, “I would definitely see your health care provider to make sure you don’t have any other medical explanations as to why you are not having monthly periods. Irregular periods can also be caused by thyroid abnormalities, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, physical or emotional stress, sexually transmitted infections, and, as you know, pregnancy.”
Your best bet is to make an appointment with your gynecologist so that you have all of your bases covered. Hopefully, it’s just a normal irregular cycle, and you can stop stressing!