I don’t think I need to tell you guys that breaking up with someone is hard to do. Regardless of how long you’ve been in a relationship or what reasons you have for ending it, dumping someone sucks, and figuring out how to do it right is pretty tough. There could be arguing, tears, and words you wish you could take back. The best way to have a better-than-average breakup? Prepare for it as much as possible.
One of the most important aspects of a break up is how you do it. I strongly recommend you do it in person, in a private place, every time. If you liked someone enough to be in a relationship with them, you should respect them enough to provide this common courtesy. I’ve heard lots of breakup horror stories—don’t be one of them! Unless you’ve been casually seeing someone for a few weeks, don’t end things with them in the ways below. Here are the 10 worst ways to break up with someone:
1. Over the phone
Tbh, who even talks on the phone any more? Phones are used for texting, checking social media, and playing Candy Crush. They should not be used to dial in a breakup. Don’t even think about delivering the news in a voicemail.
2. Via a messenger
It may have been acceptable to send your friend to do your dirty work in elementary school, but it’s not any longer. No one should be in the middle of your breakup except maybe your friends Ben and Jerry. You know the saying “don’t shoot the messenger?” In the case of a breakup, don’t even send a messenger. Deliver the message yourself.
3. Through text message
This may be the easiest, fastest, and most common form of communication these days, but it’s unacceptable to break up with someone in a text. For one thing, without body language they may not even take it seriously, and respond with an, “lol you almost got me babe!” and then you’re back to square one. For another thing, it’s rude!
4. In an email
Though email may be more professional than texting, “professional” isn’t what you’re aiming for in a break up. A relationship is a personal thing, and so is the end of one. So don’t try to email your heart.
5. On Facebook
Changing your status from “In a relationship” to “Single” without explanation is just cruel. You don’t want your former significant other to hear about the breakup from all the notifications blowing up their phone as your mutual friends post comments on the event.
6. Out in public
Please don’t cause a scene. It’s humiliating for the person you’re breaking up with, embarrassing for you, and uncomfortable for everyone around you. Remember that nightmare you’ve had about accidentally showing up to school naked? Getting dumped in public feels like that.
7. In the middle of date night
Talk about out of the blue. While the courteous thing to do is deliver the bad news in person, there’s no need to stage a fancy get together just to pull the rug from under them. You don’t want to be the Warner to their Elle Woods.
8. On Skype
Sure, you’re technically face-to-face, but a video call is not a stand-in for meeting up IRL. In the case of a long distance relationship this may be the best option—I’ve been there—but if it’s possible to get together, please do so!
9. With the slow fade
And then there’s the breakup that never actually happens—so called “ghosting.” You start canceling dates, stop texting back, and ignore their phone calls. This is the most selfish way to end things with someone. Everyone deserves some kind of explanation; simply disappearing from their life because it’s easier for you to handle is inappropriate, immature, and inexcusable.
10. On a post-it note
Oh, Berger. We’ll never forgive you for doing this to Carrie!
Which of these do you think is the worst way to break up with someone? What did we forget? Tell me in the comments!