As many of you know, I’m not usually at a loss for words. I typically know what to say and when to say it. I’ll even talk just to fill an uncomfortable silence. But I’m sitting here in front of my computer right now, choking back tears, and trying to find the words to explain how much each and every one of you mean to me.
I guess I should back up, huh? Today is the day I pack up my keys and go. After two and a half wonderful years here at Gurl, it’s time to say goodbye. Well, it’s more of a see you later because maybe I’ll pop back in from time to time. And since this is the Internet, you can always find me on the web.
Two and a half years ago, I was still a newbie in New York City. I had just quit a job at a company that was going out of business, was surviving my first real winter, and had no idea what to do. Then I found Gurl. I found lifelong friends and an incredible online community that empowers and inspires girls. I got to write every single day about stuff I love.
Y’all have been with me through my battle with anxiety, two serious breakups, one big move, and two and a half years worth of life. I cannot thank you enough for your support and readership. It truly means the world to me. You, my lovely readers, have taught me so much during my time here. I’d like to share some major things I’ve learned while working at Gurl:
1. Always be unapologetically yourself.
A few years ago, I had just graduated college and had no idea what I was doing. I was still finding myself, but I’ve learned through you fearless ladies that being YOU is the most important thing you can do in life. Don’t ever change for someone else.
2. Ignore the haters.
I have gotten some really nasty comments over the years. Like straight up mean ones. People on the Internet can be pretty terrible, and people in real life can be too. But don’t let them get to you. You’re awesome, and some mean comments should never stop you from being awesome.
3. If you say you don’t like Taylor Swift, you WILL get nasty comments.
Seriously, you will get impaled with mean comments.
4. Be the best feminist you can be.
Even if you don’t consider yourself a feminist because you hate the word, FIGHT FOR YOURSELF. Fight for equal rights for men and women. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something because you’re a girl. Make doing something like a girl mean like a badass.
5. Don’t be afraid to open up.
I’m a fairly guarded person. Some of the things I’ve shared here on Gurl I never would have been able to do without the amount of support I’ve gotten from you all. I never thought I would write about my anxiety or depression but knowing that it’s helped you guys makes me want to open up more.
6. Harry Potter is always worth talking about.
7. You will never make everyone happy, and that’s okay.
You are going to have opinions that differ from other people’s. Your opinions and decisions will make some people angry. That’s fine! As long as YOU are content with what you’re doing, what other people think doesn’t matter.
8. Some beauty treatments are just not worth trying.
I’m still upset about the time I put cocoa powder in lotion and tried to make self tanner. Thanks for nothing, Pinterest.
9. Doing what you love is one of the most important things in the world.
I’m so lucky that I got to do what I love for the past few years. Don’t let anyone try to stop you from doing what you love to do.
10. Never underestimate the power of a great GIF.
May your brows be as strong as your GIF game.
11. Life is unexpected.
And it moves super fast. Make sure you appreciate the little things!
12. Coffee is a literal life-force.
I already knew this, but it was reinforced by the constant trips to the coffee machine when I worked in the NY office.
13. You can be silly and still be taken seriously.
Just because you’re having fun with something doesn’t mean you’re not serious about it!
14. Get fitted for a bra.
Your boobs and back will thank you when you get properly fitted. Trust me.
15. Talk about sex, even if it makes people uncomfortable.
There are always going to be people who are scared to talk about sex. But if you’re with someone who cannot talk to you about sex, they don’t deserve to be near your vag.
16. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
It’s really difficult to ask for help, but it’s necessary sometimes. It’s okay to ask for help. It doesn’t mean you’re weak.
17. It’s okay to be a little selfish.
You should definitely be there for others, but you have to first and foremost be there for yourself. You can’t help others if you can’t help yourself, and you have to look out for #1 first.
I really cannot thank you readers, and I hope you all stay in touch. I also want to give a huge thank you to the Gurl team. I’m really going to miss you all. From laughs in meetings to the ridiculous amount of GIFs and links we share daily to reading hookup confessions, I’ve had a blast over the past two and a half years. I’m so thankful that we’ve grown from colleagues to friends, and I cannot wait to keep reading your stuff on Gurl.
I’m just going to start rambling or start posting Harry Potter GIFs so…
See ya on the flip side!