Will Masturbating Break Your Hymen?

Hey Heather,

I’ve been really horny, but I’m not ready to have sex, so I masturbate. Not every day, but often. I’m scared that if I masturbate too much or in a certain way, I’ll break my hymen. I want to save that for the first time I have sex. So, does masturbating break your hymen? Is there any way around that?

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Okay, so I want to tell you a really important truth about your hymen: it doesn’t matter. Seriously, it really does not matter when it breaks.

Society has, for some reason, made us believe that it does matter. I’m not sure when a thin piece of skin in our bodies became the indicator for whether or not a girl is really a virgin (while we’re here, I’m not sure why a girl’s virginity status matters at all?), but it needs to stop. Your hymen can break from many different things besides just sex. Is it possible for your hymen to break during masturbation? Sure, I would say that it’s possible, especially if you’re using some sort of sex toy.

Is there a way to avoid it? I guess… maybe by being careful when you masturbate. The problem with that is that there are still other ways your hymen can break that you might not be able to control, like playing a sport or exercising. A lot of girls don’t even realize when their hymen breaks… or if they notice a little bit of blood in their underwear, they have no idea when it happened. 

If you feel very strongly about your hymen being intact, that’s your prerogative. But I don’t want you to feel like you’re not a virgin if your hymen breaks before your first time having penetrative sex. I don’t want you to feel like your first time will be any less special if you don’t bleed a little bit. So, really, I say keep on masturbating if you want to. If it makes you happy, do it! Don’t stress about the hymen thing either. Honestly, if you’re only using your fingers, you most likely won’t break it. Although the phrase “breaking your hymen” sounds violent and makes it seem like your hymen is super delicate, that’s not really the case.

Now go explore your sexuality and put your hymen out of your mind (that was a weird sentence to write, but I fully support it anyway)!

take care,
Heather

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