Not everyone in this world can be awesome and amazing and lovely to be around. There are plenty of people out there who are huge jerks. It can be hard to avoid these terrible people, especially when they know how to hide how awful they are. Sometimes we become friends with or even date someone who ends up being the absolute worst. After months of misjudging them, only to see their true colors, we wonder how we never noticed their real personality before. We look back and wonder if we missed some crucial signs, or if their personality really did change out of nowhere.
In most cases, we did miss some signs that the person would end up being terrible. When we meet someone new and like something about them, it’s easy to overlook the bad things, or to just ignore them completely. Even the most jaded among us naturally want to look for the good in people. So we let things slide or we tell ourselves that they’re just having an off day… even if it’s not true. Want to avoid getting close to a jerk in the future? Here are 12 early signs that someone is actually a terrible person, even if they seem okay at first.
They Don't Really ListenDankoJones84: When someone acts as if they're listening to you speak, but as soon as you're finished they start their own story without acknowledging or commenting on yours. This usually means they weren't really listening at all, just waiting for you to shut up so they can speak. This is a great indication of someone who really only cares about themselves. Source: ShutterStock
They Always Complain About Being The VictimCarensza: If they're constantly the victim of bad relationships, whether it's overly crazy exes or family/friends who've done them bad turns they are the common denominator but they don't see it. If someone always seems to be in friendships and relationships that end in disaster, the common thread is probably that person. Source: ShutterStock
They Insult Everyone As A Joke2Dfruity: People that constantly use insults as humor. I have a friend who makes nasty jokes to everyone because "that's how they are in his family" and if anyone gets offended that's their problem. It's one thing to playfully call your friends bitches or nerds as terms of endearment, but he would pick out actual flaws that people were self conscious about. And then he wonders why no one likes him. There's a big difference between two besties joking around with each other out of love, and someone who insults everyone to be funny. The second is not okay. Source: ShutterStock
They're Always Judging Peoplenobody16: Judging and labeling people off before actually getting to know them. We're all guilty of sometimes judging others, or of sticking unfair labels on people. But if this person does it all the time, constantly, and never feels bad about it - bad sign.
They Never Take Responsibilityjmccomas10: Never taking responsibility for themselves, or always trying to make it some elses fault. "That cop was an asshole, he gave me a ticket". When in fact you were speeding and being unsafe. Being a good person means knowing when to take responsibility for your actions. If someone can't do that, they obviously have a lot of growing up to do. Source: ShutterStock
They Only Treat Some People NicelyHexoftheZen: Inconsistent treatment of others. If they're really nice to me, but rude to other people, clearly they're putting on a front to get something. Poor treatment of wait staff or their parents are a good early hint. Pay close attention to the person who is only nice to a few people. A genuinely nice person is kind to everyone. Source: ShutterStock
They Hurt AnimalsSoo_Do_Nim: Nonchalant animal cruelty, even if very mild. Any kind of animal cruelty is gross and shouldn't be tolerated. Even if you don't like animals, you don't hurt them or make them uncomfortable. People who do that need to be watched.
They Always Have To Be The Center Of Attentionphale18: If they have to dominate a conversation, not letting anyone else get a word out, or completely ignore other people's opinions or points. At first, it might just seem like they have an overbearing personality and just like to talk and be outgoing. But if this person is ignoring what other people are saying and only putting the focus on themselves, that's not cool behavior. Source: ShutterStock
They Have No Respect For Someone Elsetheherps: Lack of respect for other people's property. If someone is the type of person who will key a car, I want nothing to do with them No respect for someone else's property indicates a lack of empathy, which isn't a wonderful quality to have. Source: ShutterStock
They're Always On Their Phoneohanamore: When they can't/won't look up from their phones. It's incredibly rude to sit on your phone in the company of others. If someone does it constantly, it shows that they really don't care. Source: ShutterStock
They Always Say How Great They AreTriseult: As a hard and fast rule, anything positive someone uses to describe themselves is something they're trying really hard to convince themselves and others that they are. We are usually modest about our own qualities. "I'm a nice guy" = asshole. Almost always guaranteed. If someone is genuinely awesome at something, they usually don't brag about it. If they're bragging about it, there's a reason.
They Always Have To Be Rightpellibr: Always want to be right doesn't matter how, uses logical invalid arguments to prove his point If this person can never admit he/she is wrong, that's a problem. If they fight to the death to be right, even when it's not a big deal, that shows some pretty crappy personality traits. Source: ShutterStock
Which of these signs do you disagree with? What did I forget? What have you noticed in terrible people? Tell me in the comments.