This week, you’ve probably seen the term “Dadbod” floating around. This is not a new thing, but it recently went viral. Clemson University student Mackenzie Pierce wrote “Why Girls Love The Dad Bod” for The Odyssey, explaining “While we all love a sculpted guy, there is just something about the dad bod that makes boys seem more human, natural, and attractive.” You’ve seen the dadbod on guys like Leonardo DiCaprio, Jason Segel, and probably your dad. I, too, enjoy a dadbod, but I like a fit, sculpted dude as well. Really, I want my guy to be happy with himself regardless of his body type.
The problem with dadbod isn’t that guys have them. Dadbod is great! The problem is that this is a standard that only applies to men. When women gain weight, it’s the end of the freaking world. We’ve seen it first-hand in our comments on plus-size women. Moms all over the internet have been sharing their mombod photos to show off stretch marks and post-baby bodies after creating a human to showcase this double standard.
I’m not saying guys have to work out or be ripped. I’m just saying that it’s ridiculous for guys to not do those things and it’s fine, but when we’re talking about women, it’s not okay. There are a lot of double standards when it comes to the world of beauty for men and women:
1. Men are told when they gain weight it’s cool and trendy like the “Dadbod.”
Women are ripped apart for not looking fit and perfect.
2. Men get to be hairy “lumbersexuals” with beards and a plethora of body hair.
While women are told their natural body hair is disgusting. GOD FORBID YOU HAVE ANY PEACH FUZZ ON YOUR UPPER LIP. BETTER NOT LET YOUR PUBIC HAIR BE VISIBLE EVER.
3. Men get to be super sweaty without anyone batting an eye.
Women are supposed to “glisten” or “glow” or some other fairy nonsense.
4. Men aren’t told they have to cover their blemishes or other imperfections with makeup.
Women don’t have to wear makeup, but we’re constantly told otherwise. (P.S. I totally love wearing makeup because it’s fun, but there are plenty of people out there who hate it!)
5. Men feel like they get to weigh in on what clothes look good or bad on women.
But if a woman suggests her boyfriend doesn’t wear cargo shorts, it’s the end of the world. Also, women are surrounded by articles on what to wear to “attract men” assuming A. that every woman is into men and B. that women actually care what men think of their outfits.
6. Men are told they age gracefully.
Women are told we need to start anti-aging treatments in our 20s and to start thinking about preventative Botox to avoid getting wrinkles.
7. Men are told their eyebrows are fine as is.
Women are given diagrams on what the shape of our brows should be. While I do love the shape of my brows right now, I would have never touched them years ago if I didn’t feel like I had to because I felt so insecure.
8. Men aren’t expected to contour their faces.
Women are told to legit change our facial shapes with makeup. I know I’ve talked about contouring for people who want to do it, but OMG you do NOT have to contour your face! It is not a necessary thing to do!
9. Men get to chill in sweatpants.
Women are told never to wear them because ew, but if we wear yoga pants or leggings, it’s a “distraction” to men. Kay.
10. Men get to roll out of bed with messy hair and everything is fine.
Women are expected to have perfectly groomed hair at all times.
11. Men are not expected to have big, plump lips.
Women are told to have luscious lips, leading to dangerous (and stupid) trends like the #kyliejennerchallenge.
12. Men, even though they get super funky down there, are told they smell “manly” or “musky.”
Women are told they have to smell like a flower or a peach or some other ~*cute*~ scent.
13. Men can be shirtless wherever they want.
Women can’t because we have fat deposits under our nipples, somehow making said nipples offensive in public? Women can barely breastfeed and give nutrients to the human life they created and carried inside their bodies in public.