It’s no secret that I am pretty against friends with benefits relationships – I’ve written about it before. I’ve been in my fair share of them, and I can tell you from personal experience, from watching friends do it, and from reading the questions from you guys that they almost never work out. Sure, there are the few FWB relationships that go smoothly, but for the most part, someone gets hurts.
The reason someone always gets hurt is because one of the people in the FWB relationship is lying to themselves. They’re telling themselves they’re fine with everything when actually, they’re not. They’re actually totally heartbroken, but they don’t want anyone to know and they won’t even admit it to themselves. It’s called “settling,” and it stinks.
So, here are 8 lies you probably tell yourself when you’re in a friends with benefits relationship:
I TOTALLY Want Something Casual, Nothing Else.I'm not saying it's not possible to just want something casual. But most people end up doing the friends with benefits thing because they're settling for something with someone rather than nothing.
I Don't Even Like Him That MuchSuuuuuuure. Generally, if you don't like someone that much, you don't continue to hook up with them, talk to them, and hang out with them.
I Can't Even See Myself Dating HimOkay. I'm sure you've never thought about it.
I Don't Care If He Blows Me Off, He Has No Obligation To Be ThereYou definitely care, and you have every right to care. Just because you're not in an exclusive relationship doesn't mean he can treat you like dirt.
I Don't Care If He Hooks Up With Other PeopleRight. I'm sure it doesn't bother you at all to see him hanging out with other girls.
I'm Totally Fine Not Going Out On DatesLook, I'm not saying people can't feel this way. I'm just saying the majority of people don't.
I'm Not Fighting With Him Because I'm JealousEver get mad at your FWB because you're jealous, but you don't want to admit that because it would "uncool," so instead you make up some really weird, lame, random reason you're mad? Yeah. Me neither.
I Wouldn't Even Be In A Realtionship With Him If He AskedOkay. Probably wouldn't.
Which of these lies have you told? Which do you disagree with? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.