15 Flawless Responses You Can Give When Someone Thin-Shames You

This morning, I was scrolling through my Instagram feed when I saw a picture of a girl on the beach in a bikini. I admired the gorgeous suit and then saw a barrage of comments discussing the woman’s weight. There was everything from comparing her to a skeleton to saying she was the reason girls have eating disorders and worse. I was floored.

I’ve been thin-shamed my whole life, but a lot of people don’t think this is an issue. It is, you guys. No one should feel uncomfortable in their bodies. The woman in the Instagram picture looked like me so when I read those comments, I felt them being hurled at myself. Is that what people think when they see me? That I’m a walking skeleton? That I’m a poor role model for young girls because I’m thin?

I hate when people feel the need to comment on my body because it’s no one’s business. So if you’re being thin-shamed, these responses could help you out next time:

1. When someone tells you to “eat a burger:”

I think I will!

2. When someone tells you you’re not healthy:

In case you missed it, weight and health are not mutually exclusive.

3. When someone tells you that you look like you haven’t eaten in days:

That means you’re buying my next meal, yes?

4. When someone tells you 0 isn’t a size:

Freak out and scream “EVERYTHING I KNOW IS A LIE!”

5. When someone tells you “real women have curves:”

You know, because you’re clearly not real.

6. When someone tells you that your body type promotes an unhealthy lifestyle:

I wasn’t aware that existing in my skin was such an issue.

7. When someone tells you that you should gain weight:

Zzzzz…

8. When someone tells you to be careful outside so you don’t blow away:

If you’re going to make fun of me, at least come up with some better material.

9. When someone tells you that you look like you have an eating disorder:

You must be really fun at parties.

10. When someone says you’re a stick:

Not.the.same.

11. When someone says you’re too skinny:

I’m pretty sure I didn’t sign up for other people telling me what my body should look like.

12. When someone tells you that you’d look better with a little meat on your bones:

Again, my body is not for you.

13. When someone asks about your eating habits:

And what if I ask about YOUR eating habits, hmm?

14. When someone tells you that you look like a 12-year-old boy:

Brb while I find the cares I give.

15. When someone tells you that “thin-shaming” isn’t a thing:

No, it’s not “reverse fat-shaming.” It’s body-shaming, pure and simple. Commenting on anyone’s weight or appearance is not okay.
 
Have you ever been thin-shamed? What are some responses you’ve given? Tell us in the comments below!
 
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  • stefano cavallucci

    have you ever seen a fat centennial??

  • Ilya

    Oh boohoo. Thin-shaming is nowhere near as bad as fat-shaming. Not one single solitary thin person has ever actively experienced real discrimination, just a few hurt feelings. Obese people have to deal with hurt feelings AND active discrimination. No skinny person has ever been made to buy two plane tickets, skinny people don’t have people on public transportation avoid them like the plague and they’ve never been physically attacked just for being skinny.

    • Hannah

      ‘Not one single has ever actively experienced real discrimination’.

      Someone who has never been through this would never understand how it feels. Never experienced real discrimination? Dude, people always look at me like I’m some kind of aliens simply because I’m hella skinny. When people saw me carry some heavy things, they would be like, ‘Can you actually carry that?’. There is a lot more discrimination on skinny people but I can’t list them all here. (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2891708/Banned-fashion-chain-s-ad-model-Urban-Outfitters-ordered-remove-photo-website-amid-claims-fuel-anorexia.html) This article is one of the proofs.

      Don’t just assume everything if you’ve never been through it. Skinny shaming is just as hurt as bad shaming, it’s just that not a lot of people realize that skinny shaming is bad.

      • Ilya

        That’s not discrimination. Discrimination is being avoided on trains and buses. Discrimination is being forced to pay for two seats on a plane. Name ONE way that being skinny has caused you to be discriminated against other than having your feelings hurt. Has it kept you from getting a job? Has it forced you to pay for two seats on a plane? Simply being made fun of is not enough to claim you are being discriminated against. Fat people have to deal with that AND the physical discrimination.

  • J@®

    “My God, why are you so skinny?”

    Favorite response: Because after God made you, there was a shortage of fat and decisions had to be made.

    • stefano cavallucci

      or.. have you ever seen a fat centennial? lol

  • AnnaJoan

    I used to be overweight, most of my family is, and I worked really hard to be “skinny”. My extended family who are obese kinda shame me for not eating cake and an extra hamburger. I gained eight pounds before I realized I don’t care what they say about my weight. According to the doctor I’m fine, which is really all that matters.

  • Oh goodness, yes! When I was 20lbs lighter, (about 116lb at 5’5″, BMI around 19) I was often sounded out by ‘concerned/worried’ friends about self-starvation and told to gain weight or I’d make myself ill. I was often asked how I stayed so slim and then subjected to severe criticism – even abuse when I answered honestly (that I’m vegetarian and eat a lot of fresh produce). I’ve been asked if I was anorexic and called a ‘death wisher’ for my conscientious eating choices and taunted that I am ‘boring’ because I choose not to drink alcohol. Someone even went to her doctor to ask for nutrition advice for me! I was absolutely stunned and disgusted, but, of course, if you respond negatively, you’re the one whose wrong and you’re told to “take it well”, (as if you were doing something ridiculous and should accept others’ officious interference and rudeness as your due!), so I had to thank her!

    Then I gained weight and yesterday had to deal with someone telling me how much better I look now (with 20lbs of pure lard to lug around, thanks to illness, inactivity, comfort eating and mid-life challenges) etc etc etc. I wasn’t quick enough to say, “Sorry to disappoint you, but I’ve recently lost 8lbs and have another 15 or so to go.”

    Why can’t people understand that others’ weight is not a subject for open discussion and that, just as it’s considered unacceptable to tell overweight people to slim down – even though their long-term health may require it, it is also not acceptable to tell slim people to gain weight?

  • Emma Gersten

    I get called skin and bones so often (my BMI has never been underweight)! It makes me so self conscious that even if I am happy with my weight I will try to put on weight just to silence those remarks, then I become unhappy with my weight so I try to get fit and it continues a vicious cycle

    • That’s very sad. Maybe you can try something​ to distance yourself from their remarks and develop self esteem that isn’t centred on others’ approval? I sympathise! xx

  • Jewelianna Wilt

    This generation is awful. Many fashion industries have been promoting bigger women and trying to show the world that size doesn’t matter. If it doesn’t matter then why do I constantly see quotes like, “men like curves, dogs like bones.” How is that making anyone feel any better about themselves? By pointing out someone’s imperfections and making them feel like nothing? Saying those hurtful words can make anyone feel awful. Even though I’m only 13 I have had some experiences with the harsh world. Middle school is hard enough but saying mean things to other students is an awful decision. I am a thin girl which makes it difficult for people to actually like me. Since every boy is going through some changes they are interested in girls. Since I don’t have big breasts or anything like that many boys shame me calling me Eugenia Cooney who is a youtuber who has an eating disorder. It’s gotten very bad that I burst into tears when someone questions my weight. Even my family questions if I have an eating disorder, I don’t understand. If size doesn’t matter why do people ask me these questions?

  • Elle

    Once a year I stand on a scale if I have to go to my medical check-up for work. This year I gained 300 grams and it put a smile on my face because I would like to be a little less skinnier. I enthusiastically told some of my (female) colleagues and since then, everytime I put food in my mouth or near it, I get “Look out! You might gain another 300 grams! Oh no look how fat you are getting!”,… Stuff like that. For months & on going. Next time I gain weight I will celebrate in silence 🙂