16 Unexpected Struggles Of Being In A Long-Distance Relationship

I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for a few months now with my new boyfriend. Things are going really well, and we’ve been fortunate enough to see each other quite often. When I was in college I did a LDR, but this one is different. There are a lot of adjustments and sacrifices you have to make when you’re dating someone who doesn’t live near you.

I’m totally head-over-heels about my BF, but dating someone so far away has come with a new set of unexpected issues:

1. Sometimes you run out of things to talk about.

“So how was your day?”
“Fine… how was yours?”

2. Residual negative feelings after a fight can last longer.

Because it’s harder to make up from far away.

3. You get jealous of things you never thought you would.

It’s a constant battle.

4. You get jealous of people just being around your SO because you can’t be.

Even if there is NO suspicion of romance at all!

5. You argue about money because you figure you both should be saving to visit each other.

I’m sorry, why did you buy that thing when you were just complaining about how expensive it was to visit me?

6. You get more annoyed if there’s a lack of communication.

You never see me, you can at least not suck at communicating, thanks.

7. Or get annoyed when your SO wants to do something instead of stay in and talk to you.

Get back here and love me!

8. And you probably get frustrated when they want you to stay in and talk to them.


9. Your friends are always annoyed with you for being on your phone.

Sorry my boyfriend doesn’t live here, JEEZ.

10. You kinda hate your friends who are dating someone in the same area.

Can you not rub your relationship in my face?

11. You have to plan to see each other, with a slight fear that you might break up after you’ve bought a ticket.

I mean, that worry is there with any relationship, but especially LDRs.

12. People will constantly tell you how LDRs never last.


13. Or make this reaction when you say you’re in an LDR:

How am I supposed to take that?

14. You rarely have time to just “hang out” when you do see each other because you plan so many activities.

Do we have to see all of your friends and do all of the things? Can’t we just watch Netflix?

15. You’re kind of afraid to spend a lot of time together because you spend so much time apart.

I hope you still love me after four consecutive days together!

16. And no one tells you how much longing you feel.

Are you in a long-distance relationship? What other struggles do you face? Tell us in the comments below!
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  • Eric D Robinson

    On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the most intense multiply all 16 by 10 if your SO is on the other side of the world. I’ve been with my SO for just over a year, I’m in the states and she’s in Australia. The only good thing is that we get to celebrate everything twice because she lives in the future….lol. We got engaged last April at the Three Sisters Monument in the Blue Mountains. I couldn’t be happier and I’m planning to move to Australia by the end of the year.

  • 3xquisite

    LDR aren’t always that bad. I understand this page and why it was put together. But it also depends on the people involved, the depth of the relationship, and how badly the two people are willing to work for it. I think it’s ok. It teaches you self control, as it would the other person. And it shows how serious you really are about something you really want.

  • Rhiannon Drury

    Long-distance, three year relationship, trans-Atlantic, with a five to six hour time difference. It sucked. We made it work. Happily married for over a year now. If you want something badly enough, you find a way!