5 Of Your Personal Porn Questions, Answered

porn featWe all deserve to have an honest conversation about porn. Porn is so taboo, making it uncharted territory for a lot of girls. Sure, our browser histories may tell a different story. But, as far as talking about porn? Forget about it! It’s something we are told should never, EVER happen.

Well, let’s just toss that expectation to the side for a little while. Or forever. Yeah, personally I vote for forgetting about that forever.

We should be allowed to talk about porn on the regular. So let’s start! There are a lot of built up questions you all have about the topic — and it’s time to get answers! After all, you girls deserve some honest advice for all your puzzling porn problems. Allow me to help out!

 

I Found Out My Dad Watches Porn! Ew!

“One day, I snooped on my dad’s phone and looked at his history. I found so many links to porn! I’m so upset over this. I really want him to stop watching porn. He’s 50 and married to my mom. But if I told my mom, I don’t want them to divorce! Every time I see him, I tell him to go away or leave me alone! I don’t want him to watch me. Do you know what I should do?”Tiffany

I know it can be shocking when you find out your parents watch porn. We don’t like to think of our parents as sexual people — because ew! But, there’s something you need to come to terms with. Your dad is a sexual person and has sexual desires, even if you don’t necessarily want to think about it!

Here’s some relief for you: I doubt your dad’s porn habits would lead to problems in your parent’s marriage. In fact, your mom probably knows he watches porn! Successful couples really should communicate about stuff like that. So I don’t think you need to worry. But it’s also important to remember that just because your dad watches porn doesn’t mean he’s going to sexualize you. Watching porn doesn’t make you into a hypersexual monster. Your dad is not that. He’s the same guy you’ve always known. He just also has sexual desires that you’ve recently become aware of.

If it really is impacting your relationship with your dad, you should talk to him about it. True, he might be upset about that you snooped through his phone. And it may be embarrassing. But ultimately, it’s important you mend your relationship. You can’t make your dad stop watching porn. He’s 50. It’s his decision as an adult. But you can stop snooping through his stuff. Which is an important part of respect! And it will keep you from finding things you’d rather not see. Problem solved!

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Can Religion And Porn Coexist?

“Is it okay if a Christian watches porn and masturbates? Please reply!” — Anonymous

This is a really delicate question because religion and sexuality are deeply personal things. My advice? The best thing to do is what feels right for you! Obviously, your religion plays a big role in your life. But, clearly, you have sexual desires you’re wanting to explore. If your relationship with your faith doesn’t feel compromised by your sexual relationship with yourself, then go for it. Masturbate and be a Christian! If it’s working for you, then no one can take that away from you. No guilt needed!

But if you feel like these two parts of your life are in conflict, then maybe you need to pump the brakes. Try to figure out what’s causing the discomfort in your particular situation, and sort it out the best way you can. Maybe that involves chatting with someone you trust about everything. Maybe it involves doing some soul searching about what you need out of your religion and sexuality. Point is, it may take work, but you’ll find your way. And, ultimately, it will lead you to a more fulfilling and complete relationship with both of these parts of your life!

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Is My Partner Choosing Porn Over Me?

“My partner is always looking at porn on his phone. I feel like it’s hurting my self-esteem! I have told him that it upsets me, but he doesn’t stop. What should I do? It makes me wonder if he’s cheating, too. I have even thought about leaving him over this!”Wendy

Woah, woah, woah! Let’s clear one thing up. Watching porn does not automatically make you a cheater. Watching porn simply makes you someone who watches porn! Hooking up while you’re in a relationship and sexting people other than your partner makes you a cheater. End of story. That said, your feelings of insecurity are very real and deserve to be addressed, so let’s do just that.

Here’s where we need to start. You need to start working on accepting that you can’t stop your BF from watching porn. It’s his decision to watch porn or to not watch it. You also need to have some quality communication time with your BF in order to save your relationship! I would start by telling him, “Hey, I know I can’t stop you from watching porn. I’m working on accepting that. But your porn watching habits are making me a little self-conscious. I think we need to have an honest convo about why you watch and whether you are happy in our relationship to ease my mind.”

Chances are he’ll say it’s just something that turns him on when he wants to spend a little QT with himself. And he’ll probably also say he’s happy with you and porn has no affect on that! Then you will be able to breathe a little easier! Best of luck!

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Can Porn Send Me To Jail If I’m Under 18?

“Is it illegal to watch porn if you are under the age of 18? I don’t want to get in trouble!”Anonymous

A LOT of you have asked this question, so let’s chat it out. If you look for porn online, a lot of reputable sites will age restrict their content so it can’t reach users under 18. Mostly, this is to protect the distributor of the content. Current federal laws say distributing porn to minors is a criminal offense. So, clearly, these folks don’t want to get their content into the hands of minors.

Often, they can only rely on a little button that says, “Yeah, I’m 18” to secure their content. And we all know how well that works. But, nevertheless, that little button protects them from lawsuits that aren’t too pleasing. Point is, if you were to click that little button even though you aren’t 18, the police won’t comes bustin’ down your door. But you (or your parents) also can’t hold the distributor liable for anything that comes from watching said porn. Because, frankly, you lied about your age. That’s something you control, not them.

That’s the long answer to your question. The short answer? No, you will not get in trouble with the law for watching porn as a minor. But those warnings are there for a reason and you should remember that no matter what decision you make. Hope this helps, girls!

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I Want To Watch Porn Together…But He’s Not Into It!

“I want to watch porn with my boyfriend, but he doesn’t want to watch it with me! What should I do? PLEASE HELP ME OUT HERE!”Amber

This is definitely a difficult situation, so let’s try to figure it out. There could be a lot of reasons your BF is apprehensive to watch porn with you. Maybe he just thinks it’s awkward. Maybe the types of porn he likes makes him a little embarrassed. Maybe porn doesn’t get him going, so he see no reason to watch it. Whatever the case, you need to accept his wishes because it’s his sexuality!

But I also think it’s important to chat with him about why he doesn’t want to watch it with you. Because you’re obviously curious. Being a good couple is all about having fabulous communication skills. So sit him down and (gently) ask if he could explain. If expressed some interest but thinks it’s awkward, maybe you guys could work up to it. But if he just isn’t into it, respect that. At least you’ll have your answer.The good news? You can watch all the porn you want!

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Do you watch porn on the regular? Got any more porn-related problems? Tell us all about it in the comments below!

 

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  • swivah

    Your advice on watching porn co -existing with Christianity is so flawed. I think your answer is based on societal values rather than religious ones. Religion, or more specifically, Christianity can NEVER coexist with porn! The bible strongly speaks against that. That whole thing about “as long as you don’t feel guilty” is also bullshit. A person can kill and not feel guilt. Does that make it right? No. It’s morally wrong by the laws of society and also by the law of the Bible. So in this case , a Christian ‘s decision should not be made based on whether guilt is an after-effect or not but by what they know is right or wrong according to the Bible.

    “Masturbate and be a Christian”? No. Just no. Your faith should feel compromised and if it doesn’t, then you need to re-evaluate your faith.

    You’re clearly not religious and that’s fine. But dont give such worldly advice to a religious question.

  • devidjhonson

    ITS SMART

  • Raven Misfortune

    This is a bunch of bullshit. I think you forgot to mention the part about how porn CAN be just as addictive as any drug out there and 90 percent of the time, it hurts the partner involved and it also hurts the user by getting them more addicted and craving more. People who didn’t used to get aroused by “rough anal” and spitting on and slapping women start seeing it as “normal” because that’s 90 percent of how women are treated in porn. You’re damn right a lot of men get wrapped up in the sick fantasy of porn and start expecting that shit to be done from the partners just because they see it in porn. I’ve seen ts ruin relationships and marriages alike and how the porn industry treats it’s workers is appalling. This is not opinion, this cited, factual info. Maybe you should look up the side effects before dismissing it as “harmless”

    Neurons that fire together, wire together. Just like other addictive substances, porn floods the brain with dopamine. That rush of brain chemicals happening over and over again rewires the brain, kinda like drug use.

    To sit there and appraise and normalize people being exploited and abused on screen is disgusting. “You can’t stop your boyfriend from watching porn.” That is the most garbage and typical response you could say. Period. Porn hurts so many people involved. Do you realize that erectile dysfunction being prevalent and occurs frequently because men, after watching porn, are unable to be aroused by the real thing after seeing how different porn is from real sex? But to sit there and say “there is nothing you can do about it” is a load of bullshit.

    You do not seem educated on this subject whatsoever. Don’t ever sit there and pretend something is harmless when it harms relationships and the sex workers daily.

    If you’re going to give “advice” how about you maybe explore the negatives to it too, instead of assuming it’s a typical and healthy thing to take part in. There’s two sides to this “activity”, kid.