Things can get confusing quickly when you start to talk to a new guy. In between all of the flirting, texting, and trying to make plans to hang out, you start to wonder: does this guy like you like you, or does he just want to hook up? Is he trying to have a real relationship with you, or is he only interested in being friends with benefits? Wondering about this can drive any girl crazy.
Of course, the rational thing to do is to just ask him what he wants or where he sees you guys going. But that’s terrifying! And, really, who wants to take the simple and straightforward route? If you can’t muster up the courage to ask your crush what he wants with you, and you’re starting to feel like he only wants one thing, read on. These 8 signs that he only wants to be friends with benefits will help you figure out whether he’s serious about you… or just horny and not ready for commitment. Good luck!
He Never Asks You To Go Out AnywhereHow does your crush ask you to hang out? Does he make plans in advance to go get dinner or coffee, or to see a movie? Or he does he text you at 8 PM at night asking if you want to come over? If he only makes last-minute plans with you, and they always involve you going to his house or him coming over, that's a pretty big sign that he just wants to keep it casual. If a guy really likes you and wants to date you, he'll ask you to do something special because he'll want to impress you. Source: ShutterStock
He Doesn't Hide His FlirtingIf a dude wants you to be his girlfriend, he will not flirt with other girls right in front of you. You won't catch him liking 25 different profile pictures on Facebook. He won't be talking to other girls at the same time. If he's hanging out with you, and making no attempt to hide the fact that he's flirting with other ladies, that means that he doesn't want anything serious. Source: ShutterStock
You Haven't Met His Family Or FriendsIf you guys don't already have mutual friends, then have you met his friends? Have you ever hung out with all of them together? Have you met his parents or siblings at all? Has he even brought up you meeting these people? Yes, there are some guys who like to keep their relationship private, but most dudes who want a girl to be their girlfriend will make a point of introducing her to the people important to him. If you've only met his mom because she was standing there and he was basically forced to introduce you, that doesn't count. Source: ShutterStock
Sometimes You Don't Hear From Him For WeeksA guy who wants to date you will actively try to stay in touch with you. He'll text you or call you or ask you to hang out. A guy who only wants to be friends with benefits will sometimes go days or even weeks without talking to you... and then he'll reappear, act super sweet, and ask you to hang out. Don't fall for it! Source: ShutterStock
He's Made Some Kind Of Comment About Not Wanting A RelationshipThis is a big one, girls. If your crush has said something about how he's not looking for anything serious, or how he doesn't want a relationship, or he only wants to hook up, LISTEN TO HIM. Guys don't say this stuff if they really want the opposite. They say it because it's true. He's not playing hard to get, he's being honest. Source: ShutterStock
You Hook Up Every Time You Hang OutThere's a difference between making out whenever you see each other, and only have hangouts that involve only hooking up. If you guys go out and come back and hook up, and sometimes have hangouts where you just hook up, that's fine. But if every single time you hang out, you JUST hook up... that's saying it's just casual.
He Doesn't Ask Personal QuestionsIf he never tries to get to know you, there's a reason behind that. A guy who cares about you and likes you will ask you questions about your life. They'll text you to say more than just "send me a pic" or "wanna come over?" If he's not doing that, he's not interested in that way. Source: ShutterStock
He Always Has Something To Do Once Hooking Up Is DoneWhat does he do after you're done hooking up? Does he magically always have something to do that means you have to leave right away? If so, that's a sign that he only cares about hooking up with you. Source: ShutterStock
Do you think your crush only wants to be friends with benefits? Did I forget any signs? Do you disagree with these? Tell me in the comments.