How Old Do You Have To Be To Start Masturbating?

Dear Heather,

I really want to start masturbating, but I’m not really sure what age I should be. I am 13. And I’m not sure how to. So how old do you have to be to start masturbating?

Good news: there is no set age on how old you have to be to start masturbating. You can start whenever you want and whenever you feel ready. You don’t need anyone’s permission, and you actually don’t even need to tell anyone you’re doing it, so you don’t have to worry about anyone judging you. It’s also worth nothing that masturbation is not something you should ever feel guilty about – it’s a completely normal activity everyone has done and it’s a healthy way to explore your body and sexuality.

In terms of societal norms, 13-years-old is right about the time that both males and females are learning more about their bodies and are starting to experience different hormones, so it’s actually a really “normal” age to start masturbating, or at least thinking about it. In fact, many young children (in preschool and kindergarten!) touch themselves down there – it’s typically not done in a sexual way, it’s just kids exploring their bodies, and it’s a part of developing.

If you want to try it, give yourself some alone time in a place you feel comfortable – your bed, the shower, wherever. Then just do whatever feels right to you. You may have seen crazy things in movies and TV shows, but you don’t have to start out by using sex toys or anything like that. You can just touch yourself and explore what’s going on with your body. There is no real right and wrong when it comes to masturbation – it’s something you have to figure out on your own.

Don’t stress about how old you are, or whether you should be feeling weird about what you’re doing, or whether you’re doing things the right way. Masturbation is a personal experience and never something you should feel badly about. Start slow and take your time figuring things out. Good luck!

take care,
Heather

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