20 Unspoken Girl Code Rules Every Girl Needs To Follow

Girl code is not just a hilarious show on MTV – it’s a way of life. You know how you’ve heard of “bro code,” a set of “rules” that dudes follow on how to act with each other? Well, that’s exactly what girl code is. It’s a set of unspoken rules that all females are expected to follow. And while that sounds rigid and annoying, it’s actually pretty great.

When followed correctly, girl code shows women how to treat each other with respect and kindness. Break a girl code rule, and you’re in danger of losing at least one friend, or just alienating yourself from everyone for a bit. Sure, you don’t have to do any of this, and yes, everyone makes mistakes. But in general, these are good things to pay attention to because they’ll help make friendships and bonds with other females stronger. And who doesn’t want that?

This set of 20 unspoken girl code rules was found on Reddit’s awesome Ask Women thread – and who would know better, right? Read on, and remember these for future use!


1. Watch out for your friends when they’re on a new date

tina and amy

TX_Chainsaw_Manicure: If your friend is going out with someone they’ve never met (blind date, tindr, etc.) they text you where they will be and what time they expect to be home. You in turn make sure you hear from them at this time, and if not, you text them to make sure they are ok and have made it home safely.


2. Rescue any girl who’s being hit on by a creep



northernpie: If a woman is being hit on by someone that won’t leave her alone even if she’s obviously uncomfortable, you speak up and help her.
PM_ME_RHYMES: Going “Hey! I haven’t seen you in forever!” putting a hand on her shoulder and leading her away is an acceptable way to do this. No confrontation required.


3. Wait until your friend gets inside before you drive away

love you

Snowy-: When you drop your friend off at her house, you don’t drive off until she’s all the way safely inside. Why? Because someone might jump out from the bushes and kidnap her. Or, just to be sure she has her keys and everything.


4. Help a strange girl when she’s in need

best friends

jabbersense: Play along if a girl suddenly joins your conversation and acts like she knows you and your group of friends at a party or bar. She’s looking for protection from a creep that has WAY overstepped bounds.


5. Let your friend vent when she needs to


YOU_ARE_A_TOY: If your friend begins venting/complaining to you about something and you want to vent also, you wait until she’s completely done letting everything out before you even think about changing the subject to you.


6. Don’t let a girl walk into a stall with no toilet paper

fist pump

eatgeeksleeprepeat: If there’s no toilet paper in the stall you just came out of, give the next girl a heads up.


7. Give out a tampon to any girl who needs it 


rotorstorm: If a lady is in need of a tampon, THOU SHALT PROVIDE HER WITH A TAMPON.


8. Let a girl know she has lipstick on her teeth

good friend

ImNotSara: If someone has lipstick on her teeth, you discretely tell her.


9. Don’t abandon drunk friends


rosegale: Make sure drunk friends get home safe.


10. Never go after your friend’s crush

lauren conrad

TokisCodpieceBZZZ: If your friend tells you she likes a guy, he’s off-limits. If she asks him out and he rejects her, wait a few months and ask her before making a move.


11. Don’t even think about trying to flirt with your friend’s boyfriend

blair and serena

Siddlypi: Your friend’s boyfriends/husbands are just white noise. You don’t assess them in any sexual way whatsoever, they may as well be invisible on the attractive stakes.


12. Let a girl know when her BF is trying to cheat

leslie knope

dicksalsa: If someone tries to hit on you and you know they have a girlfriend, you tell the girlfriend.


13. Boost each other’s confidence


AgentBloodrayne: If you’re in a bathroom at a bar or club and there’s other girls around the mirror you gotta tell them how awesome they look.


14. Know that siblings are off-limits unless you ask


newintownbtw: Don’t date your friends’ siblings unless you get permission.


15. Be there for your friend through her relationship problems no matter what


gadget_girl: If your girlfriend is having serious relationship troubles, you’re on phone duty until things go back to normal. And don’t forget to check in with her a bit more afterwards too!


16. Let any girl know when something’s wrong with her outfit


ariaperry: Always (discreetly) inform a girl of a wardrobe malfunction eg. skirt tucked up into underwear, nip slip, smudged mascara, etc.


17. Give hair bands to those in need


Srboyd: If a friend asks for a hair band you have to give her yours, even if it’s your favorite


18. Be there for your friend who just got out of a bad relationship 


rulenumber303: If your friend falls out of contact with you because she’s been dating an asshole who alienates everyone, she’s welcome back when she dumps him or needs support to dump him… even if it has been years.


19. Don’t even think about going for an ex-boyfriend

rules of feminism

dmgb: Ex-boyfriends are just… off-limits to friends. I mean, that’s just like, the rules of feminism


20. Be nice to all girls instead of putting them down


SabinatheBrain: You know which brocode we, women, should incorporate into the system? How about instead of criticizing and trying to be a mean to other women we empower them and say something positive about each other? The world would be a better place if we tried being nice to each other instead of always trying to put others down.


Which of these girl code rules is your favorite? What did I forget to include? What do you disagree with? Tell me in the comments.

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  • Objectiveopinion

    Women who knowingly go out with a guy who has a girlfriend are cheap whores looking for a free meal. Guys with girlfriends are off limits.

  • your ulgy tehe

    what happens if u ask ur friend to go out w/ her ex boyfriend and she gives u permmision do u or do u not go out w/ him

  • Reira

    What happened to chicks before dicks?

    • your ulgy tehe

      i know right