8 Reasons You Should Never Date Your Friend’s Ex

There are exceptions to every rule, but one girl code I’ve always lived by is this one: don’t date your friend’s ex. Don’t hook up with your friend’s ex, don’t talk about how you like your friend’s ex, don’t get into a relationship with your friend’s ex…. just stay away from someone a friend dated.

I’ll tell you a little story to explain why I feel this way. When I was in high school, my best friend went behind my back and started dating my ex-boyfriend when I went on vacation. I was devastated, especially because she knew I still had feelings for him. At first, we got in a huge fight and I thought we would never be friends again. Then I missed her, we made up, and I tried to pretend I was okay with her dating him. I wasn’t. Hearing her talk about him was torture for me, being with them together was even harder. I was miserable, angry, and felt so betrayed, but I was trying to hide it because I didn’t want to lose my friend.


In the end, things didn’t work out with them… and after they broke up, him and I got close again, and we started dating. I could tell she wasn’t thrilled, and our friendship became more about jealousy than anything else. We got in a fight, and after that, we really did stop being friends forever. I still miss her sometimes, and I still wish he was never in the picture.

Dating a friend’s ex is just messy, no matter how you put it. Unless they hooked up only once and she really doesn’t care about him at all, you just shouldn’t go near someone your friend had real feelings for. Still not convinced? Here are 8 reasons you should never date your friend’s ex.

Have you ever dated a friend’s ex? Why did you do it? Did a friend ever date your ex? How did it feel? Tell me in the comments.

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  • jenny

    me and one of my closet friend are in the situation. I had boyfriend for about 4 months and then I broke up with him because I was scared of something bad happening to me and him (which is something that happened on the past with my family) so I broke up with him because I was scared and one month later (now) she tells me that she likes him and that he likes her (yet last week he told my friend that he still likes me and is still alittle upset with me) and they started going yesterday and lucky for me I didn’t go to school yesterday. but were in a club together called sound and light and we had a concert yesterday night and I was feeling way better so I went. I found out they were dating I felt happy for her. I didn’t want to ruin her chances with moving on from a guy she was on and off with for three years. so I said I was happy for her and that I didn’t mind. but then after the concert I went to go grab a stand and I saw them in a corner kissing and saying “goodbye” because he had to leave. I ran backstage and called my mom to pick me up and I cried for two hours…….and today I tried to act like everything was normal and I was still talking to her and then he (my ex but now her boyfriend) walked through the door and called her name out and she squealed and ran to him, and left me there talking to myself like and idiot. so I put my headphones on and blasted Michael Jackson “remember the time” and walked out of there before I saw them kiss or something…..and ive been holding back my tears all day and im just so glad im not the only one in the world in this situation…..

  • Saeryen

    Sorry, what??

    It’s not fair to say you should NEVER date someone who has dated your friend. I would actually rather, if I fell out of love with someone, for them to date a friend of mine so that we all can still hang out and stay in touch. Someone falling out of love with a girl because they fell in love with a friend of hers isn’t something that should lead to girl hate. It should lead to friendly bonds staying strong.